Why do I always fall for someone who doesn't like me back?

Although I know it's some form of "not their type", be it attractiveness or wits, it really makes me wonder if I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life single or if I'm actually doing something that makes me unlovable. And even if it is the latter, what's the use of changing myself only for my true colours to emerge one day?

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Forgetmeknot · 41-45

This is a really tough question and impossible to know without seeing with these people who rejected you.

So in a generalized guessing sense: usually people reflect ourselves in some way....so maybe they pick up you don't really like them and reflect that back? Of course to take that further it'd be that you don't love yourself?

I dunno, best I can do with limited info.

Melpomene · 22-25, F

@Forgetmeknot That's actually a good answer though I must admit this was more of a rant last night.
For start, most of them didn't reject me, usually they found someone else before I got the courage to ask them out (which would take years). But almost all of them were men that will go straight for what they want and considering none of them even tried anything...

Possibly. But that's not the case with the latest one as I was very interested to speak to him but he seemed more interested in other people. I blame it on the height difference but really, he just isn't into me.

Forgetmeknot · 41-45

@Melpomene maybe you don't give off an "ask me out vibe" I don't think I do either and looking back realise maybe I missed hints? I liked this guy at work, but he's at work so in my mind off limits but I really liked him, knew he didn't like me. Anyway when I look back and he said a couple of times "do you want to just run off together" which I took as a complete joke, maybe it was, but maybe he was hinting and I just missed it and made more of a joke of it...

So maybe you give off a vibe that doesn't say "ask me out" and maybe you miss hints? Maybe...and then after a while they think you're definitely not interested and get someone else?

Melpomene · 22-25, F

@Forgetmeknot There is some truth to it

Forgetmeknot · 41-45

@Melpomene I guess ideally you would start asking people out...easier said then done I know but it's better than what I do - wait for men to ask me and it's always the psychos lol because they just ask, don't care I guess if they get knocked back.