Why do I always fall for someone who doesn't like me back?

Although I know it's some form of "not their type", be it attractiveness or wits, it really makes me wonder if I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life single or if I'm actually doing something that makes me unlovable. And even if it is the latter, what's the use of changing myself only for my true colours to emerge one day?

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

You can generally tell when someone likes you. When I was young I used to think just like you, " oh why do I care of xyz person and he doesn't notice me"

Well why are you allowing yourself to entertain the idea of getting with someone that sees you all of the time and dosen't notice you?
Go where you are noticed and appreciated.
Who asks you questions about your life? Who calls you when you don't show up?
Anyone at all? That person is more likely to be interested in you.

Melpomene · 26-30, F

@REMsleep Yes, I know about that. I can also differentiate whether someone is polite, friendly interested or likes me. Unfortunately, the last category is very rare, even more so when people go from 3rd to 2nd once they figure out we're not really compatible.
Sometimes, it's not about whether you're noticed - people who care about you might not always be able to call or be there for you and perceptive people will in general notice a lot of things.