Cuddle companion

A few years ago I had considered getting a cuddling certification (it's a real thing). To start a business where people schedule sessions to just cuddle with me. A type of therapy. Since we are supposed to have human contact, preferably a hug, at least 3 times a day to keep our chemicals balanced, and we are such an adverse society to any touch unless it's cold or sexual, it seemed like something necessary.

Sometimes, I still think about it. Setting up a nice studio with comfy pillows, blankets, different light settings, some aromatherapy, soft relaxing music, etc.

But then I realize that most would expect it to be a sexual encounter and I quit considering it.

It's a shame that just wanting to touch and be touched, hugged or cuddled always ends up sexual. Sometimes, you just need himan contact.

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PhoenixPhail · M

I looked into finding a cuddle companion, and found the service to be outrageously expensive. So, I gave up the idea.

twiigss · M

@PhoenixPhail yeah it can range anywhere from $80 an hour to $150 an hour. It's too expensive. Give me 6 hours for $200 and I think that is reasonable.

PhoenixPhail · M

@twiigss Better yet, I would much rather find a loving companion who will not only give me cuddles for free, but who will benefit from mine, as well.

twiigss · M

@PhoenixPhail problem is nowadays finding a companion. Everything these days revolves solely around politics. If you are A and I am B, (I don't care about politics) the person who is A makes it a strict and sole priority as most people are doing. I just tend to stay very far away from anyone who has to bring politics into a possible relationship.

Or the ones who say "looking for prince charming and a guy who will treat me right" they are looking for a very specific thing, not a guy who is truthfully honest and kind and caring and laid back and relaxed, nope. The guys who are 100% genuine, are completely ignored.

So my luck in finding a partner is pretty much nil at this point.

PhoenixPhail · M

@twiigss I don't know about your chances of finding a partner being pretty much nil at this point, but the conditions people put on relationships, surely limits the field.

"I just tend to stay very far away from anyone who has to bring politics into a possible relationship."

I've said the exact same thing in other words. I don't care to talk politics or religion in any relationship.

twiigss · M

@PhoenixPhail yep. The conditions is what destroys it. Why can't it just be, let's talk and get to know each other?

I once saw a profile towards the end that was like, if you voted for X, NOT INTERESTED!!!

So I said, okay, I know not to message you ever. And not because of who I did or didn't vote for, but because you show who you really are, I can see the vitriol and hate. I tend to stay away from hateful people.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@twiigss I think, at least for me, as a women, people who voted for the current administration voted for me to become a second class citizen. It is hard to want a relationship with someone who voted against my having actual personhood and equal say. Even if that wasn't why they voted, they still didn't find women's equal rights as a deal breaker and honestly, I know I can't relate to anyone who had no problem with anyone's rights being removed for some other issue that means more.

So yeah, politics are unfortunately important to agree on because for me, that tells me if a person actually considers me an equal or has no issue throwing away my rights for their benefit. This is where women have been put due to others votes. We women have to now fully protect ourselves because no one else is going to politically at this point. 🤷‍♀

twiigss · M

@FoxyQueen politics in this country are out of hand. Was never like this 10+ years ago. People could vote who they wanted to and still be friends. Now, it's all about picking sides and I don't like that.

I'm my mind, I look at things that are important to me when voting. My vote don't matter anyway. I'm just one person. I understand what you are saying, I guess I never see, who else am I affecting based on my vote? I only see, these issues a, b and c are important to me, so this is who I'm voting for.

Which is why I don't care for politics. It destroys relationships and people. I'm just one person on this planet trying to be a good person and that's it.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@twiigss I understand that, but each vote does count and we shouldn't be voting for what is best for us, but as society as a whole. That means considering how policies and laws can affect people beyond ourselves. That's part of being in a society and community. We vote, not for our individual benefit, but the benefit of all it can affect.

Politics was never like this till social media. Once it became apparent that opinions could be formulated and distributed, it became far more rank and poisonous.

I don't care about politics either, but I do care about how it affects others and how it is used to keep others down who don't deserve it. So, as I said, how a person votes is a direct view on how I may be treated in a relationship. If a voter is only voting for their own benefit and not the benefit of all, why would they be any different in a relationship? Their voting says they vote for their own benefit only. How are they in a relationship where they have to corroborate and find mutual ground?

PhoenixPhail · M

@FoxyQueen Good Point.