When you’re trying to get over someone you were deeply involved with and the relationship abruptly ended…..

Therapy then Codependency Recovery 12 Steps.

Knowing and realizing you’ll never hear from them again do you pretend they never existed?
Never. I reflect deeply on my choices, acknowledge my pain, but feel grateful for the good memories. Things make me think about them every single day. I wouldn't have learned the lessons I had and experienced the great self growth I did had I not met them.

That it all was a farce?
I refuse to believe it was all a farce. Was there 'farceness', absolutely- but not all of it.

Do you find ways to hate them in order to move on easier?
I could never hate them, no matter how much I got hurt.
Hurt people, hurt people.
I hate some of the things that were done to me.
I don't like some of the choices I made that lead to me continuing to be hurt. I believe I will always hold love for them in some part of my heart.

And the gut and heart wrenching fade?
It will fade in time, but some sadness, grief, longing and a sense of loss still linger years later. For me I've found a sense of ownership over my part and I think that helped diminish any blame, resentment and bitterness.