When you’re trying to get over someone you were deeply involved with and the relationship abruptly ended…..

What things do YOU do in order to move on?
Knowing and realizing you’ll never hear from them again (at least not in that context or realm); do you pretend they never existed? That it all was a farce? Do you find ways to hate them in order to move on easier?
Just curious what mind set methods, compartmentalizing you have done that helped you move on…
And the gut and heart wrenching fade?

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SlippingAway · 46-50, F

Well honestly I can't just pretend they never existed. I usually ruminate for a while, and then try to process my feelings and come to a place of acceptance. For me I kind of need to go through all the stages of grief usually.

Kiesel · 56-60, M

@SlippingAway I’m most definitely in the grief stage still…
I think much of my hard struggle… is that many times, little thought morsels will speed across my mind of threads of hope of her just reaching out for whatever reason….. ugh

SlippingAway · 46-50, F

@Kiesel I've been there before, it's hard but it does get easier with time