Venting sorry

I am reading about rejection in a self help book currently...and the author says even though it can hurt, we need to REFRAME rejection. Once you give it new meaning, you move on from it, and she says even welcome it. Because what we need to say instead to ourselves is,
"Rejection is redirection. It's simply pointing me in the way of something better that's soon to come.'
"Thank you for this rejection/failure because I trust it is happening FOR me, not TO me.'
You are going to be ok Nutshell, you are whole as IS, and even though it doesn't feel wonderful., you are strong and will find a new path, or who knows maybe one day you will reunite ... but for now, Know everything is ok, you are ok, and things are happening all as they should. Think for now of who you are, focus on your needs and wants, and just each day being present in the now. Not past, not future. You got this. 🌹

Get counseling if need be but don’t ever wait around for another person to determine what you’re gonna do with your life.

still gets to me to see young women all busted up over some guy, its been a hard road findining anyone at all for me. I might of but i've suffered quite a bit of longing and loneliness. Find myself wondering every time this shit happens what these guys say and do that gets women so wrapped around their little fingers.

Sorry for the selfish response in advance, Hope you feel better soon. I just feel like men are fairly hit or miss, if it doesn't work out oh welll.

but if I might be sold bold how'd this guy get you this way?