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ThroughMyEyes · 56-60, M
Mamapolo2016 · F
When you get hit hard, it's important to look at things from a healthy perspective and you seem to be on the right trajectory.
Loss hurts, but sometimes it's pain like recovering from an appendectomy. You can refuse the surgery, but it's likely hanging on to the diseased organ will kill you.
Look at it as a spring cleaning. You're not empty - you're a fresh shining vessel ready to be filled - with flowers instead of weeds.
Now you can thoughtfully and patiently choose the right blossoms from the garden.
Hugs, honey. As [@Queztalcoatlus] said, this too will pass.
Loss hurts, but sometimes it's pain like recovering from an appendectomy. You can refuse the surgery, but it's likely hanging on to the diseased organ will kill you.
Look at it as a spring cleaning. You're not empty - you're a fresh shining vessel ready to be filled - with flowers instead of weeds.
Now you can thoughtfully and patiently choose the right blossoms from the garden.
Hugs, honey. As [@Queztalcoatlus] said, this too will pass.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
Snow33 · 36-40, F
@cherokeepatti I know this to be true. What’s hard is my sister has kids that I love very much. Their at a young age. So she controls who they get to see. It breaks my heart because I know they want to see me too. So is it better to cave and walk on egg shells to be able to at lest see the kids? That’s my problem deciding.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@Snow33 Yes had the same problems with my sister. Sad thing was that she was t letting my daughter come around her cousins who were in the same age range anyway. The very last time she made an exception should have raised some suspicion. After her acting this way for two years one day called and invited my daughter for a sleepover. She went and spent the night and most of the day there. Came back home on a Sunday. On Monday afternoon she calls me and says “Oh, by the way Katy has head lice” Supposedly a bad case and I believe she knew that before she invited her to her house. That phrase “Oh by the way” alerts me to something she is scheming on as if she is casually mentioning it. I had to
Spend a lot of money to treat my daughter and also
Shampoo my own hair and the bedding, sofa, and laundry. I found what looked like two nymph lice on my daughter. Not to
Mention taking a day off work and peace of mind always checking for over a month.
This is how evil
That sister is and only one of the reasons for cutting her out of our lives
Spend a lot of money to treat my daughter and also
Shampoo my own hair and the bedding, sofa, and laundry. I found what looked like two nymph lice on my daughter. Not to
Mention taking a day off work and peace of mind always checking for over a month.
This is how evil
That sister is and only one of the reasons for cutting her out of our lives
wonkywinky · 51-55, M
Snow33 · 36-40, F
@wonkywinky yes it’s definitely been hard. Especially it all happening at once. It’s hard to because we are short staffed and I just got promoted. So I can’t even fall apart. I’m just acting like everything is okay. Holding the fort
Renkon · 36-40, M
Why did you breakup?
When you break up with someone it naturally disturbs your normal routines. When they were part of your life, so much was planned around them. Now you see lot of vacant seats and empty frames.
Just understand it's normal to feel depressed and stressed after a break up. Just fill that life holes with something new. May be a new hobby or try meeting some friends. If it's too much seek help.
Whenever their thoughts come, remember the reason you broke up. And....
Don't be hard on you.
When you break up with someone it naturally disturbs your normal routines. When they were part of your life, so much was planned around them. Now you see lot of vacant seats and empty frames.
Just understand it's normal to feel depressed and stressed after a break up. Just fill that life holes with something new. May be a new hobby or try meeting some friends. If it's too much seek help.
Whenever their thoughts come, remember the reason you broke up. And....
Don't be hard on you.
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Renkon · 36-40, M
@Snow33 From what you said, I think, He is feeling that he might no get another woman like you every again. He felt satisfied the way you were with me.
The problem he doesn't realise nothing is free in life. He should have invested in your needs too. Put some work in the relationship. That's why he is trying to patch up with you.
Make it clear to him you have moved on. I wouldn't suggest you to lie. But you might tell me you are seeing somebody else already. It might sting him hard. But if nothing works you can try.
The problem he doesn't realise nothing is free in life. He should have invested in your needs too. Put some work in the relationship. That's why he is trying to patch up with you.
Make it clear to him you have moved on. I wouldn't suggest you to lie. But you might tell me you are seeing somebody else already. It might sting him hard. But if nothing works you can try.
Snow33 · 36-40, F
@Renkon I’ve given him chances to fix things. I’m not wasting my life waiting anymore. Yes relationships are work and both people have to be willing to create and grow together and for themselves.
I cant say that to him right now. He would freak out. He said that if I start dating someone new he would beat them. So the best thing I can do is avoid and ignore at all costs right now. I cant reason with him. He’s not accepting that it’s over. Even though I’ve told him over and over.
I cant say that to him right now. He would freak out. He said that if I start dating someone new he would beat them. So the best thing I can do is avoid and ignore at all costs right now. I cant reason with him. He’s not accepting that it’s over. Even though I’ve told him over and over.
Renkon · 36-40, M
@Snow33 "He said that if I start dating someone new he would beat them"
What the hell! Are you serious? You believe him? He is threatening with harm.
That's close to a punishable offence.
I don't know you and I am furious. Talk to people who care for you . Deal this with a firm hand. Or people will treat you like they own you. Please do not be his emotional hostage. So many women make this mistake.
Next time you talk to him, bring someone with you. You brother, uncle or a close friend. He will get the message. People who threatened respond to threat. They are usually cowards inside.
What the hell! Are you serious? You believe him? He is threatening with harm.
That's close to a punishable offence.
I don't know you and I am furious. Talk to people who care for you . Deal this with a firm hand. Or people will treat you like they own you. Please do not be his emotional hostage. So many women make this mistake.
Next time you talk to him, bring someone with you. You brother, uncle or a close friend. He will get the message. People who threatened respond to threat. They are usually cowards inside.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I am sure this hurts like hell. I certainly know the pain of relationships ending, and I know how it can feel as if the pain will be forever.
Regardless of whether God or the universe wanted to help you do a cleansing, you seem to be recognizing that some of these people [i]were[/i] toxic. So, at the very least, you can take this as an [i]opportunity[/i] for both cleansing and reflection about how to recognize toxicity in the future and not get caught up in it.
That might lead to a lot less pain in the long run, and maybe to some actual happiness :)
Which i do hope you eventually experience.
Regardless of whether God or the universe wanted to help you do a cleansing, you seem to be recognizing that some of these people [i]were[/i] toxic. So, at the very least, you can take this as an [i]opportunity[/i] for both cleansing and reflection about how to recognize toxicity in the future and not get caught up in it.
That might lead to a lot less pain in the long run, and maybe to some actual happiness :)
Which i do hope you eventually experience.
Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
Snow33 · 36-40, F
@Quetzalcoatlus thank you for the wise words. I’m trying to focus on work and self growth.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
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SkeetSkeet · 100+, F