I Have Had My Heart Broken

@Mikemcneil That was very rude of you. If you are here to insult, please go somewhere else but not here. And if you are being sincere, your phrasing is certainly misleading. I suggest that you clarify yourself.

It wasn't rude at all. This story clearly indicates unrealistic feelings of harassment by elderly neighbours.

How are you sure of that? Perhaps this story is fake and I have to lose is my pride and time of a few minutes. But what if it is real? And even if the person has paranoia, isn't it something people should be helping with?

No one can be forced into alcoholic addiction. The clues are there.

Paranoia can be treated. I suggested that but you called me out on it remember?

you could have slowly led the person into it rather than slapping that into his face. With the sentence you have written it could be misinterpreted into a teasing/jeering gesture.

Thanks. Are you a trained therapist?

Oh no. Im just a stupid fifteen girl.

fifteen-year-old

Doesn't stop you having valid views. If we accept the story as being factually correct it doesn't make sense.

@Mikemcneil Hey, Colourflames advice was excellent !!! and exactly right! Your comment came across as a "put down" , not helpful advice, we all need to be kind to each other, this person is seriously struggling with something and is reaching out for help, lets all try to be compassionate - and Mikemcneil, not only did you seemingly put down "SeaofTears" but you wrongly attacked Colourflame, she is a good person , just trying to help, her advice was great, so stop being so negative and if you don't have something constructive to say, just keep your comments to yourself, lets all try to be kind and supportive to one another, life is tough at times and we can all use a little support from time to time, seaoftears - may you find your way

Colourflane wasn't attacked by me.

@Mikemcneil I can't see who you were having that conversation with (they must have blocked me) but I certainly do agree with your replies.

Blockers operate that way. The advice I'm giving is based on sound values and experience of working with genuinely suicidal people. The poster isn't helping himself by refusing to take responsibility for his own choices. Might seem harsh but it's the only way to get help.

@Mikemcneil Totally agree, nothing has been his doing according to him. No, it's not harsh it is reality and I hope he does get help. *sigh

@Zoranna That person maybe under 18 and this is the reason you cannot see them - I have those kids blocked

Good point ned. They are fifteen apparently.

@nedkelly Possibly Ned. I've been blocked by lots of people I've never even heard of. Doesn't bother me.

@Mikemcneil you sarcasticly asked if she was a "trained therapist" like don't offer advice if you don't have some stupid credential ! People don't always need clinical type advice, they just need someone to care, to listen, to validate their feelings, not get all , go see a professional advice !! or Im a trained therapist so you should listen to me, - that stuff isn't the real world, people just need sometimes to be heard by someone to be believed by someone to have someone , anyone show even a little that they care , to offer a kind word to lend a helping hand, sometimes that can make all the difference, so, yeah you did put down colourflame

Scorpio there was no sarcasm. You invented that based on your view of me. Your advice is immature and irrelevant to the poster. Enabling unrealistic views of the world causes more harm than good. This person's alcohol addiction wasn't caused by his neighbours. That's ridiculous.

@Mikemcneil see !!thats the problem, you think from one post , you got his problem all figured out, and you saying my advice is "immature" is a prime example of what is wrong with this World - you have no idea what this person is going through, you can't from one post, he presents a surface experience to us and you go , " ok, i got this, this is what you need to do " " you're delusional" " you have unrealistic views of the World" how the heck do you know that ???!! , the best or all we should do on HERE is not Play being therapists, just offer a kind word to someone , thats what people here are often looking for, i offered no advice at all, other than to be kind and compassionate, you thinking you can specifically diagnose the issues and tell him anything is dangerous , naive, and dangerously misguided and to suggest that saying we should be kind and compassionate is "immature" is a sad commentary on the World you live in

Nobody can force another person to become alcoholic. If you seriously believe that you are no help at all to the original poster. Why waste your time judging me by the way?

@Mikemcneil Im not judging you , just making an observation based upon your comments, something to consider, just dismiss it if it has no relevance to you, but im just saying that it's important to be careful on here when offering specific "advice" - no one has life all figured out and diagnosing what someone needs in the way of "support" or needs to do - from reading one post is extremely dangerous

Sorry but in this case the contents of that post indicates the poster is blaming anybody but himself for his problems. He's also claiming to be suicidal. That can only be dealt with by seeking professional help. Those are facts. You are judging me.

@Mikemcneil fair enough, we all create our own reality, so view my comments as you wish