The same thing happened between my wife and I after being together about as long and for the same reason. We stayed together because neither of us could imagine being the single parent of a helplessly disabled child. As it was, it always took effort from both of us to get him to all his therapy sessions, doctor appointments, equipment adjustments and all the unscheduled emergency stuff.

We stuck it out until last year when she lost her battle with cancer. It was a 6 year battle. I was her caregiver also but that romantic love feeling never returned and i know it was a mutual feeling. The only silver lining i can think of is that after caring for both her and our son, caring for him only is much easier than caring for them both.

There were times when I really tried to start over because i thought it was important that she felt loved but she was unresponsive to it

The question you should ask yourself is whether or not he's pulling his weight or is he a liability. Does he make your life better or worse. My wife and I were always good partners. Our partnership lasted 31 years

sorry that your marriage is being strained and hostile thats no fun

Tough times break the toughest you have to regroup n restart again

Choosing not to marry is a legitimate choice, but making that choice unfortunately means a lesser commitment to each other.

This sounds so painful. Has he ever apologized? It sounds as if you're probably both frustrated.