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I won't be on here much anymore due to the feed and lack of interaction, but want to let the people who care about me know, I'm doing pretty good 🖤

I have walked into an opportunity that will sustain me and make moving, when it's time, seamless.

I get to use my trauma power for good and I get to do something that makes a difference. Without getting too specific, it's elder care and I am working with the most difficult people, but it's rewarding. After my experience with my mom/dementia and all the death I've witnessed, I have found a way to help. I have found a place for my strength and caring. And darkness.

When people dump their parents because they're too old and difficult, I can provide some comfort. I have the patience, I have the thick skin and I have the love.

It's sad how Americans treat their elders...

My light only shines in darkness it seems. A darkness most people don't want to face. Yet this is where I find warmth and meaning.

It has improved a lot for me. Not just financially, but on a soul level. I don't have to pretend I'm cheerful, extroverted, energetic and superficial anymore. I can be myself. Calm and chill. And it works. I can soothe. I can deflect the verbal abuse and transmute it into peace.

I'm so happy. It feels like my heart is thawing. I have found my way and I see the path ahead of me.

I needed this.

I love you guys and I will check in. But I think there's too much hate everywhere right now. Too much control over the content we see. I'm done with the performative conflict. Done being left out of what I care about.

There are some deeply amazing people here, I have enjoyed following your journeys. I will be stopping by, curious and caring while away 🖤 please know, you are thought of, and well wishes are made daily in your honor.

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SilverF0x · 46-50, M
Years ago I was renting a condo from this old couple with 5 kids. All kids had moved away to different parts of US for career reasons. Nothing wrong with that. But every year when I’d go see them to renew my lease they would chat with me for hours talking about their lives and experiences. They just wanted someone to listen to them. I could feel their loneliness. I hope they felt better having someone listen to them even if it was only for a day.

Good luck with your new job. It will be very rewarding
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@SilverF0x The secret is only to listen and be patient. That is all most people need but it's very rewarding to do so for elders because they have so much to say. Especially at 99 years old!

And the appreciation is palpable and stays with you. It very obviously means the world to them and contributes to their happiness and purposefulness, which goes full circle 🖤

Thank you, and thank you for taking the time with them. I'm beginning to understand, taking the time with people is a key that some have lost. That I lost for awhile.
SilverF0x · 46-50, M
@ScreamingFox Giving someone time, ears, and attention means more to them than anything else