Do you really think "Unconditional love" exist?
If it does, how does it manifest?
22-25, M
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RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
Unconditional love does exist when people actually know what it is, let alone what real love is, and strive for it. Unconditional love doesn't mean there's absolutely no boundaries or self love, doesn't that it's a free pass to allow things to happen to you or someone else, doesn't mean you or someone else insist in its own way.
Example: "My parents hate me, are passive aggressive. My brother rejects me and hurts me. I forgive them for their flaws, as I would hope someone to do the same for me. I love them like family but I moved out and on with my own life. I limit my contact with them. I don't expect them to change even though I wish they would. I send them resources to get professional help, even though they act belligerent by which I remove myself from the situation. I pray for them daily. When they need something good, and doesn't harm them or anyone else, I'm happy to give it. If they need or do something that isn't good, I'm quick to call the authorities should they be needed or I withhold my involvement from that and state my reasons why, in hopes they see the error of their ways. Should I not be able to have any relationship with them, I wash my hands from it... although I will attend their funeral, and hopefully before that time, be open to a fresh relationship on terms that establish boundaries and seek out help from the church or professional help so that this relationship remains healthy. Ect..." See how that's different from being a push over? It's assertive but it's not insisting that someone has to make a choice I agree with otherwise I can't love them...instead, it's if they want a healthy relationship. There's unconditional love there for someone who is portrayed to have awful traits and wrong doing regardless. There's also self love to stand up against the injustice and establish boundaries. This is a hypothetical scenario but I wanted to display what unconditional love is amongst ourselves.
Example: "My parents hate me, are passive aggressive. My brother rejects me and hurts me. I forgive them for their flaws, as I would hope someone to do the same for me. I love them like family but I moved out and on with my own life. I limit my contact with them. I don't expect them to change even though I wish they would. I send them resources to get professional help, even though they act belligerent by which I remove myself from the situation. I pray for them daily. When they need something good, and doesn't harm them or anyone else, I'm happy to give it. If they need or do something that isn't good, I'm quick to call the authorities should they be needed or I withhold my involvement from that and state my reasons why, in hopes they see the error of their ways. Should I not be able to have any relationship with them, I wash my hands from it... although I will attend their funeral, and hopefully before that time, be open to a fresh relationship on terms that establish boundaries and seek out help from the church or professional help so that this relationship remains healthy. Ect..." See how that's different from being a push over? It's assertive but it's not insisting that someone has to make a choice I agree with otherwise I can't love them...instead, it's if they want a healthy relationship. There's unconditional love there for someone who is portrayed to have awful traits and wrong doing regardless. There's also self love to stand up against the injustice and establish boundaries. This is a hypothetical scenario but I wanted to display what unconditional love is amongst ourselves.