Can we talk about 'the Love in Our Lifetime' that we could never seem to get over.

Poll - Total Votes: 12

Eventually we do get over the lover we struggled most to forget

We never get over them , it's just not possible

You can only vote on one answer.

There appears to be several ways we can make peace with the fact.
Which of these ways would be the best do you think?

How long does it take? ... or do you think that we never actually get over them?

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LadyGrace ·

We get over them when:

We come to realize they really weren't meant for us or it would have worked.

It wasn't about us. Everyone has different preferences and that's okay.

This person was emotionally unavailable.

Better to find out now than after marriage.

It really wasn't the person we were mourning over, but what we thought we had.

It's never good to force a relationship. That's not love.

ElRengo · 70-79, M

@LadyGrace
You forgot another reason

LadyGrace ·

@ElRengo What? When we move on? Also when we stop thinking about them. What do you say? When we find another? Or when we love ourself enough to move on and don't allow our past to predict our future?

ElRengo · 70-79, M

@LadyGrace
The case you forgot, mine, is when you loose to cancer the one you loved.
I don´t even want to "get over".
By the way, with my full respects for other´s views, the last phrase is built on assumptions that are not my ones.
No debate at all, just saying.

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@ElRengo yes bereavement is in a class of its own . In all respects it IS the ultimate loss.

And I am sorry I admit wasn't one I had considered while creating this post 😔

ElRengo · 70-79, M

@Kae20
Thank you for your kinds words.

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@ElRengo @ElRengo no problem

LadyGrace ·

@ElRengo I didn't even go that far. There could be many reasons. My deepest condolences. Of course that would be horrible and I'm so sorry.

I don't even know what you're talking about assumptions. Sounds like you're angry with me over something or blaming me for something. I don't even know what you're talking about, just because I forgot to add a long list of other things. Those were just off the top of my head.

ElRengo · 70-79, M

@LadyGrace

No, kind lady, I´m not at all angry with you, I have no reason for!

Of course we all have some focus and filters based on our personal experiences.
I was just pointing to another case, a personal one, with no necessary contradictions with other ones.

About assumptions..........are the ones implicit in the choice of words and concepts like in
"Or when we love ourself enough to move on and don't allow our past to predict our future?"
I´m not debating about, just said I do not share them.

LadyGrace ·

@ElRengo That's no problem. When I said when we love ourself enough to move on, I was speaking about moving on from situations like abuse.

ElRengo · 70-79, M

@LadyGrace
Agree, that´s a sadly too common case.