What does love mean to you?

What does love mean to you? I'm curious what others think. So this is what love means to me. So this is something I really never had the answer to before. So I love myself firstly. I feel a lot of people forget about themselves in a relationship, and forget to love themselves or feel it's selfish to love themselves and it's not. I've been guilty of this in the past. So my love is enough for me. Loving your good, bad and ugly. Forgiving yourself for mistakes and choices you have made. Accepting yourself for who you are. I believe you can love someone if you don't love yourself but it's really difficult. So you really should love yourself first or at least putting love into yourself. Love is something built over time. You may have love for someone but truly loving them comes from truly knowing someone. Getting to know them and letting yourself be valuable as well. Love is also fully accepting the person your with. You need to choose someone who your comfortable accepting all of them, and comfortable truly being yourself with this person. We are human and we are not perfect we will make mistakes. But for me loving someone is loving their good, bad and ugly just like myself. Not trying to change them. Being able to truly be yourself with them as well. Knowing that a relationship is 100% and 100% not 50% 50% and sometimes your not always going to have 100 and that's when your partner picks up the slack and sometimes you're both not going to be 100% that's when you make time for each other. Love is being there for the hard times and not giving up on them. Love is being there for them when they are sick and cannot go anything for themselves. Love is celebrating the good moments together. I also believe setting boundaries are also so important and shows love in my opinion. If you respect your partners boundaries and they respect your boundaries that shows love. Communicating even when it's hard. Having those hard conversations that no one wants to have but is super important. Love is trying to see the other person's perspective and trying to work things out. That's some of what love means to me. This was a great question!

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BeyondCool · 41-45, F

Research how most of those end up. Thats all I'm saying. Everyone always believes they can rise above. The reality is you don't know someone until you live with them. And for most incarcerated people there is a transition and process that needs to take place. Must like grieving that you can't rush or HELP someone along with, because it's in their brain and none of your "good intentions" matter at that point. I mean hello.....let him get out, establish himself as a man and member of society, then.....once he's whole...you move forward....my god use your fucking head young lady!

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BeyondCool excuse you first of all. Don't hate on me because you don't understand me. This was a question about what love meant you you not about my relationship. I know exactly what I'm getting into and I know the real test is when he readjusts to life to freedom. I know it's going to be difficult. Just because some couple don't make it doesn't mean we won't. I get that my relationship is different and what most people wouldn't do. But you are just hating because youve been hurt and you don't appreciate love. Check yourself, watch the way you talk to me. I'd like you to say this shit to my face. But no you hide behind a computer. Oh your so tough. You don't have to like or accept my relationship but what youre not going to do is put me down.

BeyondCool · 41-45, F

@Sassychick420 ok enaber!!!

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BeyondCool I'm curious why my relationship and my life is bothering you so much. It's weird it's my life not yours so chill dude

BeyondCool · 41-45, F

@Sassychick420 Opps if I could spell....enabler...and I'm not hating...that's your generations way of fighting back when you're told you're doing something stupid.

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BeyondCool yup blame my generation when your the closed minded person. You can say whatever you want. What does it matter if it doesn't directly effect you. You have no idea his story and your just assuming shit. Again it's okay it's not your fault it's your closed minded generation

BeyondCool · 41-45, F

@Sassychick420 Again, all you're doing is spinning. Maybe you should quit acting like you shouldn't expect retort when you put stuff like that out there publicly....

Sojournersoul · M

@BeyondCool Was going to jump in and and fix enabler for you. 😂😂😂😂

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BeyondCool okay fair but your putting me down and your older than me you should know better it's stupid and your pissing me off so yeah I'm spinning. It would be appropriate if it was on a post o was talking about my relationship but I was talking about what love mean to you. Regardless of my relationship. It has nothing to do with me. I shared my example of some of the things I feel. IDK why you can't just answer the question or just leave it alone. But no you need to put someone down in the process. It is what it is. Have a good life

BeyondCool · 41-45, F

@Sassychick420 No, not at all. Ive been there, seen it so many times, heard the same words.....felt the same anger from someone. And talked to them 10 years later after the reality hit....AND OMG DREAMER. LOVE should be saved for someone who knows who they are and loves themselves, then they can love you properly. Stop acting like "love" or relationships are something your generation invented. Those rules never change....good luck

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BeyondCool I'm not im just trying to be happy and see how other people would do things differently. My generation has nothing to do with my relationship or the way that I love. The older I get the more j realize that most of what love really is comes from with in not from other people. But when loving someone this is what love means to me. It's simple. Anyway agree to disagree

BeyondCool · 41-45, F

@Sassychick420 Yup fair enough. Just remember me the day it happens.

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BeyondCool if my relationship ends I learn from it heal and move on. No I will not remember you not for a second. Your truly no one to me I don't know you do your opinion of me really doesn't matter I just wish more people were open minded and not be so afraid of something not working out. Yes these is a possibility it won't work out and I will deal with it at that point not going to assume it's going to end well. I'm not going to pree. Judge people. Everyone has a story and everyone has been through their own shit and are. In their own phase of their journey. All I know is if it doesn't work out hope is not lost. I will find someone else or I'll be single and be happy single. So yeah it is what it is. I hope the best for you

BeyondCool · 41-45, F

@Sassychick420 Its okay, not everyone is meant to find love, happiness, or success. It's just that people usually don't sabotage their own lives because of naivety! The fact that you even take such a hard stand twisting what I say because it doesnt support, "the whittle girl feelings" is obvious to all of us. I mean face it chick, you don't know anything about this guy.... you know only he tells you. Not examples of how he conducts himself or his path once out. You are just muddying the waters. Again good luck.