It's a matter of choice.
If a person cannot choose her role, she unable to make the best use of her talents.
If she's obliged to be a housewife and mother with no access to earning her own income, she becomes almost a slave - more so if the family's faith requires that she must obey him.
There's no guarantee that the husband actually does serve and love her. The rate of men who commit adultery is estimated to be about 90%.
What he earns, he would earn anyway, if if he had no wife or family.
49% of first marriages end in divorce. Which suggests halt for nearly half, love does not last for either the man or the woman. If they're religious and stay married, it is often a lifetime commitment to mutual misery. Happy and long lived marriages are rare.
For each second marriage, the divorce rate is higher. The more divorces a person has had, the less likely their next marriage is to succeed.
At any point in history, if you added up the work a woman does and the standard wages that she'd be paid for that work if she was an employee and not a wife and mother, the cost of employing her would be far more than 90% of men could afford.
Many women are far happier and more fulfilled when they earn a living. When they contribute their brains, skills and training, the world is a better place.
But that's not to say that women working solves all their problems. If can also create a few problems, especially if working conditions are not modified to ensure that children get the care and education they need via accessible and affordable preschools.
