Do you believe you can be inlove with a person and still cheat?
Please bare in mind that loving someone and being inlove with someone is different.
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In-love - as in totally infatuated, almost every waking moment consumed by thoughts of the belovéd - for most people no; it's just one object of attention.
But for sex, love and romance addicts, it's a different story. That can have multiple partners simultaneously and even multiple in-love style romances. They pay a high cost in the practical areas of life - work, family, friendships and everything else suffer from the dysfunctionality. They are using the highs of their habit to avoid feeling emotional pain. It doesn't work and can be immensely destructive - but they don't get into therapy until they've reached their rock bottom.
But for sex, love and romance addicts, it's a different story. That can have multiple partners simultaneously and even multiple in-love style romances. They pay a high cost in the practical areas of life - work, family, friendships and everything else suffer from the dysfunctionality. They are using the highs of their habit to avoid feeling emotional pain. It doesn't work and can be immensely destructive - but they don't get into therapy until they've reached their rock bottom.
NattybyNeter · F
That’s not my version of inlove. That would be codependency mixed with obsession but each person is allowed to feel different. Also, I never mentioned polygamy. I am speaking on cheating @hartfire
@NattybyNeter I've only been in love once, was betrayed, and it hurt so much that I've never been in love since.
Having had so little experience at it, perhaps I'm not the best person to answer your question.
I've been with the same man since 1983. We were never in love, but we became best friends within the first 6 months of dating and have proved reasonably compatible.
So please tell me how you experience being in love.
Having had so little experience at it, perhaps I'm not the best person to answer your question.
I've been with the same man since 1983. We were never in love, but we became best friends within the first 6 months of dating and have proved reasonably compatible.
So please tell me how you experience being in love.
NattybyNeter · F
@hartfire My version of in love has to do with me being physically and emotionally connected to someone. It’s an intense feeling of happiness when we are together, a feeling of safety. Me wanting the person to be happy even if I’m not included in that happiness. I want the best for them because they make me so happy by just being in my life. Of course I’m not a airhead so they would have obviously contributed positive attributes why I got to the inlove part. When I’m inlove yes I have eyes but I’m not attracted to anyone one else. At least not to the level of wanting to engage. It’s been a while but from what I can remember that’s how I feel when I’m inlove.