How would you know if you fall out of love?
How would you know if you really fall out of love that the feelings is completely gone? That you won’t miss the person if you really won’t see each other again.
26-30, F
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
I knew I was no longer in love.
I just loved him.
The reason being I started thinking about what our life would look like 5 years down the line given his previous years behaviour.
And compared it to where it is today.
I realised that the only person keeping this relationship alive was me.
I made the effort to be available and emotionally available to him.
But what did I get from this?
So i had to check why I loved this person.
It's not about nice presents and going to fancy restaurants. It's about the care I receive on a day to day basis. And it's was next to none.
The love I gave was the love I was missing for me.
And I realised that if I turned that on myself I would have all I needed. And unfortunately there was none left for him.
He had enough good years of my love.
I just loved him.
The reason being I started thinking about what our life would look like 5 years down the line given his previous years behaviour.
And compared it to where it is today.
I realised that the only person keeping this relationship alive was me.
I made the effort to be available and emotionally available to him.
But what did I get from this?
So i had to check why I loved this person.
It's not about nice presents and going to fancy restaurants. It's about the care I receive on a day to day basis. And it's was next to none.
The love I gave was the love I was missing for me.
And I realised that if I turned that on myself I would have all I needed. And unfortunately there was none left for him.
He had enough good years of my love.