I don't think most are even looking for love

With time and experience with people i have realised that even if you express intensely, even if you are a committed honest and a loyal person who will never betray them, even if you give them a lot of care and love, THEY DON'T WANT THAT.

Most people are looking for convenience.
They are looking to be in their comfort zone.
They want to adjust the relationship that way
They want to mould the other person in a way that seems normal for them.
They are scared of your real self only because you feel intensely about them.
That there should be a remote control so that we just say the right things they want to hear or they are ready for.
That you can't just express how you feel
That you have to express to the extent that they feel it's normal to be accepted.
Too much love scares them
Because instead of appreciating that love they feel scared to be with you
They are scared to hurt you
They are scared to be NOT ENOUGH
But no one here was expecting perfection.
That perfection is an illusion.
That we all make mistakes
That we all hurt each other
That we have to fight for the relationship
That we have to nurture the relationship
That we have to accept people for how they are
They are not looking for love
They are looking for their clone.

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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

They are looking for what they are comfortable with, mostly. Anything else asks too much. It's actually quite normal, they have become scared of themselves.

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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

@SW-User I would more say they don't want to give the hurt they have learned to someone else. (pretty much the same)

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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

@SW-User I'm sorry that happened to you. I do think often hurt people, hurt people quite often but one can't make a strict rule around that entirely, that you have to keep some love for life (the grander kind) in your own way and compassionately see why that can happen and grow. I hope I make sense.

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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

@SW-User I don't think you were in a position to find love, or marry. I've not been in that position. I had a family that might push with laugh, even in care, why don't you find someone to love and marry... but they would never really pressure me, even if I find it presumptious and annoying, like pressure, but I never felt pressure, I needed

Both my exes, had terrible examples of marriage, one would have gotten married, another wouldn't have. I never needed the idea, myself, so for me, and if I knew I loved them it made no difference.