If someone is only in a relationship with someone because they feel sorry for their partner, would you consider this love?
31-35, F
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Busybee333 · 31-35, F
No.
1. Being with someone out of pity or sympathy for them is unfair to both of you: none will be tully content - you will both always feel that something is missing.
2. Playing a lifetime role is way too much of a burden that will drag you both into a spiral of despair.
3. A big sting now is better than total emotional destruction later - be honest with your heart and theirs.
Truth hurts but it is liberating: Be kind and firm - the other person may be disappointed at first but they will understand and respect you for being direct with them. If they are wise, you might just save and strengthen a lifelong friendship!
If, however, they don't understand, don't suffer: it means they were not mature enough for a serious relationship to begin with. And maybe they are not even compatible with you in terms of friendship. A strong friend will understand.
Don't pick a "right" moment: have this talk urgently!
Be real; good luck! :)
1. Being with someone out of pity or sympathy for them is unfair to both of you: none will be tully content - you will both always feel that something is missing.
2. Playing a lifetime role is way too much of a burden that will drag you both into a spiral of despair.
3. A big sting now is better than total emotional destruction later - be honest with your heart and theirs.
Truth hurts but it is liberating: Be kind and firm - the other person may be disappointed at first but they will understand and respect you for being direct with them. If they are wise, you might just save and strengthen a lifelong friendship!
If, however, they don't understand, don't suffer: it means they were not mature enough for a serious relationship to begin with. And maybe they are not even compatible with you in terms of friendship. A strong friend will understand.
Don't pick a "right" moment: have this talk urgently!
Be real; good luck! :)
