If someone is only in a relationship with someone because they feel sorry for their partner,...

No, and to be honest it's more hurtful. Not only are you disrespecting your partner, but you are disrespecting yourself. I know it's hard, but the longer you drag it out the more painful the breakup will be. Do it sooner so that both you and your partner have a chance to find someone new and be happy. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

LadyGrace ·

Absolutely not. Where there's no honesty or trust, there's no relationship. What a poor excuse to marry someone...along with lust, instead of love!

Busybee333 · 31-35, F

No.

1. Being with someone out of pity or sympathy for them is unfair to both of you: none will be tully content - you will both always feel that something is missing.

2. Playing a lifetime role is way too much of a burden that will drag you both into a spiral of despair.

3. A big sting now is better than total emotional destruction later - be honest with your heart and theirs.

Truth hurts but it is liberating: Be kind and firm - the other person may be disappointed at first but they will understand and respect you for being direct with them. If they are wise, you might just save and strengthen a lifelong friendship!

If, however, they don't understand, don't suffer: it means they were not mature enough for a serious relationship to begin with. And maybe they are not even compatible with you in terms of friendship. A strong friend will understand.

Don't pick a "right" moment: have this talk urgently!

Be real; good luck! :)

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JustJustine · F

No, that's pity. It could grow into love later, but no, not love.

CookieCrumbs · F

No, it’s not.
It’s a waste of both their time.

By being together, they lose the opportunity of finding real love with other people who will be with them because of it.

Others may have reason to stay together because of “kindness”. There is nothing wrong with that, but they should recognize the choice for what it is.