I feel apprehensive about my decision to move.

I've done all the research, I've fantasized about it for years, I've planned exactly where I'm going to live and shop. I still feel a sense of doubt in the back of my mind, that it will not make me happy and is not all I've made it out to be. I hate change.

But I think it all comes down to this sense of familiarity that I have built up over the years. I do not love where I live, but I have lived here for 3 years. A little bit of comfort is a dangerous thing. I have to press on, even if it does not feel good.

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DDonde · 31-35, M

I know what you mean

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

This a big decision, but you say you have done your research, so it's not like you are stepping into something completely unknown. Nothing is certain in this life, but if you feel you want to move, do it and try to have no regrets, even when some of the 'fantasy' ideas don't prove to be reality.

Moving in itself won't make you happy. Surroundings are very important, but peace of mind comes from within and if you can enjoy the novelty of being somewhere else, the experience could be life enhancing.

May you find peace and contentment once you have recovered from all the upheaval of the move.

Hikikomoribabe99 · 26-30, F

@FreddieUK i agree with you, well said.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

You should do it, otherwise you'll almost certainly regret staying.

Shibalaha · 22-25New

Go fly away birdie 🕊. That's a valid fear. Today I was thinking about same thing - about moving to a different city or a country then a thought creeped up - it will still be same. I sat with the thought and I simply let it pass.
Its going to be brilliant for you. Because you will make it 💜❤

1490wayb · 56-60, M

is it far?? a different town??

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BlueVeins · 26-30

@1490wayb Thanks!!

1490wayb · 56-60, M

@BlueVeins what is the new town??

BlueVeins · 26-30

@1490wayb I won't say the name to avoid doxxing myself.

What I will say is that it's a small, walkable city with low housing costs. My plan is to move out there, sell my car, and rely on the local public transportation. There are definitely better cities for living car-free, but I'd rather have money and wait a little longer for the bus than be broke in NYC.

greensnacks · F

Do it. You're not happy where you are. And this has a chance of being better. It's a leap of faith but you get to learn stuff. This way, it's stagnation without any action

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