What would you do?
Me and my i guess now ex, have been on-off for almost three years. The reason we are always off is because whenever I bring up anything that upsets me it leads to a fight which leads to him leaving the relationship. It’s never been a mutual breakup or a calm one. He always comes back. He lives at home with mom and dad (we are 24) and his parents began involving themselves into our relationship about a year in. Although they claim to not involve themselves into their child’s relationship yet they do in his. Anyways, I complained to them that he treats me like a toy and that I no longer wanted to be with him a long time ago and they blamed it on stating he doesn’t treat me bad and that I’m just too much. Because apparently they know. I left him alone but obviously the love and attachment I felt was always there so after a month we retouched and got back together. Things were going fine until I found out I was pregnant a month ago. He didn’t want it and kept pleading that it isn’t right time. After we told his parents he stated to them “oh when she told me I felt it was blessing” bullshit to appease his catholic parents. He moved in and said he’d step up. But ever since he moved in he has been emotionally distant and cold. Two days ago we had a big fight which started because his father questioned whether I intentionally planned a pregnancy in order for him to not leave me. I cried and what did my boyfriend do? Nothing. I watched me cry and asked what i wanted him to do. Later that night he proceeded to not eat the dinner I spent two hours cooking because he decided he wanted to eat something else instead. That was my last straw and I went off on him. Of course he shut down and decided to pack a bag and run home. I got mad and panicked so I grabbed his bag and decided I was gonna stop him from avoiding the conversation. He got physical. Pushed me to the ground and pinned me down. Only stopped because my father intervened. My dad booted him home and of course his parents called me upset. Asking why I cause and look for problems. That they regret their son meeting me and getting tangled up with a girl like me. That they shouldn’t have to apologize for what the father said/thought about me. That their son has a lot going on and doesn’t need to deal with me. The guy has such an easy job and is all he does. I work two jobs, multiple side jobs, have two pets I care for, care for my elderly father, and cook/clean the house on a daily basis. They said they are gonna back their son 100% no matter what. Regardless of what he does. I have my first ultrasound Monday. He hasn’t spoken to me since he ran away. He did text me this morning saying he will speak to me after work so I guess it’s barely become convenient for him.
Even through this all I find myself still loving him some. Not as much. But still willing to try for the relationship. But I already know that he is embarrassed to come back to me after what his parents said and what he did. I already know he has too much pride to work things out. I already know he will come talk to me to declare he won’t be coming back. And idk if he’ll stick to it. I just know that I’ll be heartbroken again. That I’ll most likely be a single mother. That I’ll be having a depressing and stressful pregnancy because he was the only support system I had. And he knows that.
He will want to stay in the child’s life so he will do as he pleases and get the easy job of only seeing the child when he asks for them.
I feel like everything is so unfair.
I don’t know what to say or do or feel. I feel like everything I think and do and say is wrong and gets me in trouble.
What would you do? What would you say?
I feel like I lost everything I worked so hard for. Like I lost something very important. I can live without his parents and their respect.
I just feel heartbreak due to losing him again. When I thought we were finally gonna get our act together and grow. When things were looking like they could change.
Even through this all I find myself still loving him some. Not as much. But still willing to try for the relationship. But I already know that he is embarrassed to come back to me after what his parents said and what he did. I already know he has too much pride to work things out. I already know he will come talk to me to declare he won’t be coming back. And idk if he’ll stick to it. I just know that I’ll be heartbroken again. That I’ll most likely be a single mother. That I’ll be having a depressing and stressful pregnancy because he was the only support system I had. And he knows that.
He will want to stay in the child’s life so he will do as he pleases and get the easy job of only seeing the child when he asks for them.
I feel like everything is so unfair.
I don’t know what to say or do or feel. I feel like everything I think and do and say is wrong and gets me in trouble.
What would you do? What would you say?
I feel like I lost everything I worked so hard for. Like I lost something very important. I can live without his parents and their respect.
I just feel heartbreak due to losing him again. When I thought we were finally gonna get our act together and grow. When things were looking like they could change.
