i raise my voice sometimes when i can't get my point of view over
or when i think i'm losing a discussion, i raise my voice and start to get aggressive.....i know this is not the best way, so how can i learn another tactic?
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twiigss · M
As I age, and get older, I realize that not everything has to be won. I'll give you an example:
Let's say there is something I know about. I am 110% absolutely sure I am right. In fact, I even did a google search just for my own piece of mind, and I was right. So I'm having a conversation and 3 or 4 other people tell me how wrong I am, I can't be right. I'll have a back and forth, and then, I just relent. I realize that it doesn't matter if I'm right, or if I win a conversation.
I've also come to the realization that I can't put negative energy into conversations or anything else for that matter, as it makes me physically tired.
So, I've been training myself to remain calm at all times, and I tell myself this: If you need to yell or scream, just relax, take it easy. A relative of mine was telling me how they were in a position where they were going to yell at this other driver. I told my relative, "What's the point in that though?" "At the end of the day, what did all that yelling really get you?" And they agreed with what I had to say. So it's really up to you. It takes working at it. I can still get furiously mad in under a second, but I try so hard not to. And it's something I've been working at now, for the last 10 years at least. Good luck to you sir :)
Let's say there is something I know about. I am 110% absolutely sure I am right. In fact, I even did a google search just for my own piece of mind, and I was right. So I'm having a conversation and 3 or 4 other people tell me how wrong I am, I can't be right. I'll have a back and forth, and then, I just relent. I realize that it doesn't matter if I'm right, or if I win a conversation.
I've also come to the realization that I can't put negative energy into conversations or anything else for that matter, as it makes me physically tired.
So, I've been training myself to remain calm at all times, and I tell myself this: If you need to yell or scream, just relax, take it easy. A relative of mine was telling me how they were in a position where they were going to yell at this other driver. I told my relative, "What's the point in that though?" "At the end of the day, what did all that yelling really get you?" And they agreed with what I had to say. So it's really up to you. It takes working at it. I can still get furiously mad in under a second, but I try so hard not to. And it's something I've been working at now, for the last 10 years at least. Good luck to you sir :)