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@yfma53 I am glad you liked. :)
CestManan · 46-50, F
I read somewhere that the reason we are hurt by insults has something to do with our ancestors. Way back when, the entire village depended on each other for survival. One's reputation was very important, lest they be cast out and unable to survive.
Basically peoples' opinions of you could very well mean surviving or not.
While today that is hardly the case but our instincts still tell us that others' opinions matter way more than what they really do.
@Spoiledbrat mentioned -
[quote]Until someone cones along and takes that away from you.[/quote]
The short of it is, when we are happy or proud of something, it is best to keep it to ourselves because someone WILL try to piss on our parade.
Especially at work. Ever notice how if you are caught smiling or laughing too much, some boss feels the need to ruin it?
Basically peoples' opinions of you could very well mean surviving or not.
While today that is hardly the case but our instincts still tell us that others' opinions matter way more than what they really do.
@Spoiledbrat mentioned -
[quote]Until someone cones along and takes that away from you.[/quote]
The short of it is, when we are happy or proud of something, it is best to keep it to ourselves because someone WILL try to piss on our parade.
Especially at work. Ever notice how if you are caught smiling or laughing too much, some boss feels the need to ruin it?
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@CestManan In India, we often use the term, "Nazar lagegi" - it means that if you laugh too much or show you are very happy, there always will be someone who would envy you for that and might want to ruin your happiness for you. The term simply means, "evil eye" and be wary of these kinds.
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@CestManan LOL
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I feel that one should forgive people when one feels ready for it, sometimes trying to forgive something you don't feel like doing its worse.
There are people that I haven't forgiven and I simply moved on with my life.
They're just part of the past, and that's all I can do and feel OK with it. Forgiveness is something that shouldn't be forced, but happens naturally.
I've forgiven myself though.
There are people that I haven't forgiven and I simply moved on with my life.
They're just part of the past, and that's all I can do and feel OK with it. Forgiveness is something that shouldn't be forced, but happens naturally.
I've forgiven myself though.
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@SW-User Forgiveness only comes to meaning when it is done wholeheartedly. One shouldn't be coerced to forgive. It is important to be mentally ready in order to forgive someone truly. If one does not want to forgive, it is absolutely fine as long as they are able to move on happily in life. Holding a grudge only affects "our" peace of mind.
mondayschild2 · F
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@mondayschild2 I am glad you could understand what I was trying to say. There is a different level of freedom to the soul when you truly forgive someone who did you harm.
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
Forgiving others is easy.
It's forgiving myself that is the hard one.
I know it's a toxic trait, but it is so hard to break the habit.
The way I tell myself is, I am just very strict on myself to do better the next time and that is how I drive myself to actually do better. I beat myself up over everything.
My anger management counselor said that I have spent a lot of time kicking my own ass and I have gotten pretty good at it.
I guess I worry about screwing up over and over even tho I always find new ways to screw things up.
Don't get me wrong tho. I do understand I am only human and we screw up but I just don't want to keep doing the same thing over and over and never learning to stop the cycle.
It's forgiving myself that is the hard one.
I know it's a toxic trait, but it is so hard to break the habit.
The way I tell myself is, I am just very strict on myself to do better the next time and that is how I drive myself to actually do better. I beat myself up over everything.
My anger management counselor said that I have spent a lot of time kicking my own ass and I have gotten pretty good at it.
I guess I worry about screwing up over and over even tho I always find new ways to screw things up.
Don't get me wrong tho. I do understand I am only human and we screw up but I just don't want to keep doing the same thing over and over and never learning to stop the cycle.
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@SW-User I'm the luckiest woman to have found my soulmate on SW. 😜
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
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@AngelKrish Always be happy, Krish :) I am right here if you need a friend.
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Spoiledbrat · F
Until someone cones along and takes that away from you.
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@Spoiledbrat don't let the other person control your emotions. Don't let the other decide your state of mind. It is only you that can make or break the behavioural pattern. Sometimes you have to learn to ignore, to let go and move on positively.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
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@iamonfire696 Phew! to comment, to give an opinion, to state your point is one thing. To keep dragging it even when the message is communicated is another thing. Relax.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@SW-User I am relaxed. You asked why I had formed my opinion and I answered. Pretty sure this is called a conversation….have a nice day
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@iamonfire696 And I do appreciate your opinion. :)