Be happy, my friends

The decision to forgive yourself or somebody else is a vote to live in the present moment. When we won't forgive ourselves, we are actually choosing to stay on a guilt trip so we can put ourselves through some extra mental anguish.

When we withhold forgiveness, we suffer.

Most people remember compliments for a few minutes and insults for years. They become garbage collectors, carrying around trash that was thrown at them twenty years ago.

We all live our lives the best way we know how. We make a lot of mistakes along the way. Sometimes we act on misinformation, sometimes we do stupid things, but we are still doing it the best way we know.

Nobody opens his eyes the moment he is born and thinks, "Great! Here is my big chance to go out and screw up my life!"

Being happy requires looking for good things. One person sees the beautiful view, and the other sees the dirty window. You choose what you see and you choose what you think.

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

I can forgive but forgetting what happened is another thing.

SW-User

@iamonfire696 To forgive means to forget and if you can't forget then you must take your time with it.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@SW-User it’s important to forgive but not forget. When you forgive and do not forget you are safeguarding yourself from being a victim of the same offence again. When we forgive but not forget we learn from past experiences. Forgiving is important for our emotional health and can strengthen our relationship. Forgiving abs forgetting is great in theory but really it is very hard. I think this is important.

Elinoria · 100+, F

@iamonfire696 I agree. Forgiveness isn't giving someone a free pass to do harm again.

SW-User

@iamonfire696 Let's admit here that human beings cannot FORGET unless they are suffering from amnesia lol. So what I meant by forgiving and forgetting is not wiping off the experience from your memory, but not holding any grudge when you are forgiving. One should always remember the lesson and progress in life going forward.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@SW-User which is exactly what I said. You said [quote] To forgive means to forget and if you can't forget then you must take your time with it.[/quote]
That implied to me that you skis need to forget with time so I expressed my feelings about that clearly.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Elinoria exactly

SW-User

@iamonfire696 Although, I am not sure why we are discussing this so much when we all mean the same. If my husband cheats on me with some other woman, I will remember that experience but I will kick him out of my life. lol

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@SW-User because if this sentence
[quote] The decision to forgive yourself or somebody else [/quote]
That would be why…..

SW-User

@iamonfire696 God! somebody kill me lol. My next post should be, "why do people drag a topic so much?" lol

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@SW-User you posted this topic I assume to have interaction. I am explaining to you why I gave you the answer I did and you don’t want to hear it so why did you ask me why I said it if you don’t actually care?

SW-User

@iamonfire696 Phew! to comment, to give an opinion, to state your point is one thing. To keep dragging it even when the message is communicated is another thing. Relax.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@SW-User I am relaxed. You asked why I had formed my opinion and I answered. Pretty sure this is called a conversation….have a nice day

SW-User

@iamonfire696 And I do appreciate your opinion. :)