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Be happy, my friends

The decision to forgive yourself or somebody else is a vote to live in the present moment. When we won't forgive ourselves, we are actually choosing to stay on a guilt trip so we can put ourselves through some extra mental anguish.

When we withhold forgiveness, we suffer.

Most people remember compliments for a few minutes and insults for years. They become garbage collectors, carrying around trash that was thrown at them twenty years ago.

We all live our lives the best way we know how. We make a lot of mistakes along the way. Sometimes we act on misinformation, sometimes we do stupid things, but we are still doing it the best way we know.

Nobody opens his eyes the moment he is born and thinks, "Great! Here is my big chance to go out and screw up my life!"

Being happy requires looking for good things. One person sees the beautiful view, and the other sees the dirty window. You choose what you see and you choose what you think.
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I feel that one should forgive people when one feels ready for it, sometimes trying to forgive something you don't feel like doing its worse.
There are people that I haven't forgiven and I simply moved on with my life.
They're just part of the past, and that's all I can do and feel OK with it. Forgiveness is something that shouldn't be forced, but happens naturally.
I've forgiven myself though.
SW-User
@SW-User Forgiveness only comes to meaning when it is done wholeheartedly. One shouldn't be coerced to forgive. It is important to be mentally ready in order to forgive someone truly. If one does not want to forgive, it is absolutely fine as long as they are able to move on happily in life. Holding a grudge only affects "our" peace of mind.
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@SW-User yes, moving on without looking back or looking back as something that thankfully is part of the past is what I often do.
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@SW-User Good approach.