Adapting to a new lifestyle

My wife has been in dementia care now for a couple of months.. And as predicted, she is starting to take over.. She was a nurse/manager in a redidential care home for years.. Now with dementia her reality has retained some of her old skills. The staff allow her to feed other residents who cant feed themselves and she chats away happily for hours in circles with them. Overall she is far happier than she was at home. Of course, at home I couldnt get her to do anything. She was fine. It was the rest of the world that was out of step.. So now my biggest guilt is not feeling as lost as I think I should feel. I am reorganising the house to live downstairs and doing some of my own "maintainance", dealing with an old foot injusry and arranging some major dental. Things I couldnt get away to do without a real battle as she knew best about my health and argued the point at every turn.. By the time I finish these chores it will be spring coming on and I am considering heading off for a couple of weeks fishing up the south east coast..In the meantime I am taming the new desktop and downstairs laptop on Linux.. F**k Microsoft!😷