WHY should I cut my hair?

I'm a 59 year old woman. I have hair that has no gray and is a little past my shoulders. Been trying to get it to grow for years, but it just doesn't. So several people recently asked me when I was going to cut my hair, because I am a women over 40. Who the hell makes these rules for women? I have my nose pierced, 25 tattoos, and I dress very trendy and act like I'm 25. Why do people expect us to get a certain age and start wearing polyester clothes, cut our hair, start hitting the seniors hangouts to play bingo? I don't get it. Do similar rules apply to middle aged men? Are there unwritten rules that they are expected to follow when they hit 40?
So I am interested in hearing from people to get your take on whether they believe women should cut their hair and dress a certain way after 40 ? I personally think it's stupid to expect that of us, but that's just my opinion.

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bijouxbroussard · F

It’s old-fashioned and sexist, of course. The popular belief was that long hair on older women tended to ”draw one’s face down", long grey hair was the "wicked witch" effect, and of course no such "rules" exist for men. One thing I’ve loved about my generation is that we rewrote so many of society’s rules. And it fits that the younger of us would redefine what it means to be "elderly".

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

@bijouxbroussard Is that you?

bijouxbroussard · F

@JimboSaturn No.

spjennifer · 61-69, T

@bijouxbroussard Well, there are some unwritten rules for men too, or there should be, the half-bald toilet seat hair with a rat tail or ponytail sticking out the back of their ball cap is a no no, it just looks silly. The guy who's 65 with the cheap black hair dye job is a no no too. Mullett or skullett, again no. I mean I'm all about dress however you feel if it makes you feel good but act your age too 😊