WHY should I cut my hair?

I'm a 59 year old woman. I have hair that has no gray and is a little past my shoulders. Been trying to get it to grow for years, but it just doesn't. So several people recently asked me when I was going to cut my hair, because I am a women over 40. Who the hell makes these rules for women? I have my nose pierced, 25 tattoos, and I dress very trendy and act like I'm 25. Why do people expect us to get a certain age and start wearing polyester clothes, cut our hair, start hitting the seniors hangouts to play bingo? I don't get it. Do similar rules apply to middle aged men? Are there unwritten rules that they are expected to follow when they hit 40?
So I am interested in hearing from people to get your take on whether they believe women should cut their hair and dress a certain way after 40 ? I personally think it's stupid to expect that of us, but that's just my opinion.

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AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

I'm 56 with hair half way down my back and I dress how I want.

Ignore those who judge your dress sense, they are just jealous of strong women.

Mardrae · F

@AntisocialTroll I definitely think that's a big part of it. My 85 year old roommate is like that. When she rented a room from me last year, her daughter told me how excited she was to rent from someone older. You should have seen how she acted when she saw that I have hair past my shoulders, lots of tattoos, never wear a bra, etc. She is widowed like me and she was looking for someone to cry with about our dead husbands, someone to go to church with, etc. I ain't the one. I am not religious, I don't have kids, smoke pot, and I flirt with guys. Definitely the opposite of her. It pisses her off I think. She was one of the people who suggested I cut my hair.

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@Mardrae By pure coincidence I just happened to read this and thought it might be of interest to you.

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2023/oct/20/myopia-allergies-sex-some-things-improve-the-older-you-get-say-experts