Any other stoics in here?

calicuz · 51-55, M

Yes, I'm a stoic too. I've endured so much, yet I still carry on without complaint. It's my responsibility, whether to others or myself, that keep me going.

bijouxbroussard · F

Friends have described me as such, but I dunno. Like Degs said, I think it’s just a default setting if you live long enough. 🤔

Iwillwait · M

@Queendragonfly Oooh, there's a few. My biggest challenge is to not over-think the situation or to time-travel into the world of "Could, happens," and I start strategizing scenarios that never come to fruition. Other issues are immediately projecting into the negative and sometimes manifest a undeseireable outcome.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Iwillwait The worst of mind traps. Our brains are so picky. Basically If we're not in the moment we will suffer. 😒

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Henal I think that's the most realistic expectation. No one is perfect but if we're good more than we're bad (and the bad isn't that we murdered people that one time) we're good. 😊

Henal · 26-30, F

@Queendragonfly I agree :)

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@JimboSaturn what's your favorite stoic quote?

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

@Queendragonfly Hmm I can't think of a quote, but I just like the concept that you only concentrate on things you can control, which is really only yourself and how you react to things in life. If you are the master of yourself, it's all you need.

I think Ghandi inspired by Thoreaux said "you have have me beaten and even have me killed, but you will not have my obedience.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@JimboSaturn [quote]I just like the concept that you only concentrate on things you can control, which is really only yourself and how you react to things in life. If you are the master of yourself, it's all you need.
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I absolutely agree! This gotta be the core of stoicsm.

A quote that shows a good example to this is [i]"If you can't change the situation, change your attitude"
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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@southerngent Maybe it will make sense to me then since I'm often criticised for being too chill and even told I'm faking it 😂

I still have sensitive subjects to improve, like my CPTSD that makes me go "I'M GONNA DIE" each time there's a loud sound. I'm able to catch my reaction and calm me down now but it would be nice if there's a way to prevent that reaction and increased pulse entirely. But maybe that's beyond stoic powers?

I'm intrigued to read that book now!

southerngent · M

@Queendragonfly there are several people out there who write about this stuff. I started by reading one of Ryan Hollidays books. But I’m sure there are others.

Actually it’s a lot like the serenity prayer.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@southerngent I haven't read any of the traditional stoic books, I've read stoic inspired ones though. Mainly because I'm a bit afraid of the complicated language in the old traditional ones. Especially if they're in English. Not sure how much I will actually be able to understand.