I Need to Vent

I understand how you feel, Gigi. I had an experience very similar to that when I tried MeetMe.com a long time ago that I remember very well:

She and I met back in early 2014...she randomly messaged me first, saying I had beautiful eyes. And she was actually responding to my messages, unlike the vast majority of other folks on that website. Private messages lead to texting, which lead to phone calls. I thought I had met someone amazing! She was sweet, understanding, patient and, which is more, we had the same main areas of interest (video games, movies, and music).

Then suddenly she started taking AGES to text back...it took her fucking DAYS to finally tell me that she was dealing with a financial situation that was making it difficult for her to make ends meet and stay in her apartment at that time. After things "calmed down", she told me that we should try video chatting on ooVoo. But EVERY fucking time we arranged to do it, she would either:

A. Fall asleep not after two minutes of conversation.
B. Show up one to one-and-a-half hours late (long after I had given up and walked away from my computer!)
C. Never show up at all (half of the time with ZERO explanation as to why)
Or D. Cancel on me at the last fucking minute due to tiredness or an urgent situation coming up.

And when I confronted her about it, all she could do was tell me about how she only had so much time in the day to talk and how she was "burnt the fuck out constantly after work". Even though the distance between us had grown to a point that I was lucky to receive one FaceBook message from her in a day (usually just something stupid like "Hi, David!" and that's it) - CHYEAH, RIGHT! Sorry, but NOBODY is THAT fucking busy! People make time for the people they really want to talk to and she FAILED to do that for me, so I deleted her from FaceBook and sent her a message explaining why.

But instead of actually, you know, OWNING UP to her mistake like an ADULT and, you know, ADMITTING that she wasn't as interested in talking to me as she claimed to be in the beginning, she sent me a series of text messages essentially telling me that it was all my fault, insulted me about it like a child and that I was "ridiculous" for deleting her from my life the way I did. When I responded, attempting to converse further, I never received a response.

And when I spoke to her a couple of months later, she STILL couldn't own up to the fact that she fucked up with me! So, after seeing the kind of person she really was, I finally deleted her from MeetMe (which admittedly I should have done MUCH earlier on) - I guess some people just can't fucking swallow their pride for ANYTHING!

Then several months later, I check out her FB profile to find that she was engaged to some Hispanic doofus (no offense intended towards Hispanics in general) and that she had moved to Arlington, Virginia. I won't lie...it REALLY pissed me off to see that she was enjoying the taste of a loving relationship with someone else to such a grandiose extent and apparently felt so sure that this man was her true love. Because romance is what I originally had in mind for she and I when we first met.

But I go to her FB now and, lo and behold, what do I see?! A profile picture of a VERY sullen-looking face (and obviously trying to hide it, LOL) and a Relationship Status reading SINGLE. So, I guess her self-absorption ruined that relationship too...now, isn't karma a bitch? :P

I would do the negative sale with him: say something like "I know you have a lot going on and sorry about your dad, so why don't we get together when things settle down." If he's interested and being sincere he'll reschedule in short order.

Can be said of women also

yes...luckranger 71 that's sort of what happened the first time we were suppose to get together. he did tell me if I wanted to move on he understand but if I had patience he'd like to keep talking and meet. I like I said I understand about family emergencies. It's just so disappointing when I think I actually am going to meet someone nice and it falls through. I am so not good with this dating stuff. It's been 7 years since my husband past. it's not good for your ego when it keeps happening to you. kind makes you wonder what your doing wrong.

Sorry. Idk what is up with this guy. Or any of those guys. I always had a hard time asking a girl. Lol. So if I got a date I would want to go to it lol.

bhatjc if only it were that easy to find another date I wouldn't have bothered me. It's very hard for me to meet men.

Don't doubt yourself. It's someone else putting it off for what appears to be genunie reasons. If it's meant to be it will happen. 🙂

i say give him another shot ...stay in contact with him ..check on the family situation ...i know having a parent or a child who is ill consumes priorities ..cant be helped ...but if this guy seems genuine ..open to your asking questions why not give him another shot ..its really not his fault his dad became ill at an inopportune time ...who knows it may be something great that you may miss out on if you judge too quickly

Thank you nojudging....I do try and tell myself that as well.... I have trouble with listening and believing it

Thanks for sharing subzeroslayer808. I really appreciate.. Her loss right!!!

Hmmm. I understand he has a lot going on, but at the same time it's not healthy for you to be in a sort of limbo. In these situations in the past my gut feeling has usually been right even when I wished it wasn't. He may be sincere, but don't put all your eggs in one basket.

one more chance?

Luckranger he apologized again and said he really was interested in meeting me. We have been talking everyday. No plans to meet yet. He's not feeling well lately. I am hoping that we do get to meet. However my head won't stop spinning with questions.

My gut instinct is off kilter. I was thinking the same thing...if he doesn't have time for me now or can't make it what will the future be like. Sad because I really enjoy taljung to him and we get along well.

I hope so HoraceGreenley. I enjoy talking with him it's easy and comfortable. We seem to get along well via texting. We have a few things in common which is nice .

I would give a girl in the same situation another chance. Cus I would want to believe she did want to spend time with me.

As you said earlier gig. Give him one more chance. But sounds like his family is more important right now.

It's good to see you'll give him another chance. Hope it does happen & goes well. All the best. 🙂

Find your self another date. Tell him. When he is ready to date you call me.

I think the guy is sincere. I'd give him another shot.

How did this end up working out Gigi?

Ok essexphil one more chance.

thanks jonjdw