One of those days

I know this isnt my place - but i thought I'd mention this:


Sometimes people get their most angry and most loud and expressive.....with the "safe" people in their lives. The people who won't scare them, or make them feel small or make them feel like they're losing or a frail in anyway.

We get it at school. Students will go off at a teacher over nothing, say horrible things....even get violent - and it's got nothing to do with school, (its frustrations and fear brought from home) .

All because : Teachers are safe .
Teachers will never raise their voice, shout, scream, throw stuff hit, threaten or scare these kids.

It happens a lot.


Sometimes it can be the other way round : the pressures at school, and keeping it all in, can cause kids to have "meltdowns" on their parents when they get home.

Its projection.
Its denial
Its redirection of built up stress.





If this happens a lot between you two .....you really need to get a handle on this.

Evidently he needs the release it gives.
But frankly ....if its upsetting you on a regular basis....its a mild form of abuse: hes using you as a sounding board to his stress, and the politics is the 'verbal stick." so to speak.


Now theres a few ways to potentially deal with this.

One: to rise above.
To realize what he's doing, and that its not really directed at you - more : he's just jetting off steam and you're the safest one he can do it with. See it for what it is and let it wash over.

Two: completely agree with him despite what you believe. Let him 'win" . Let him feel he is in control, is right and justified. Validate his feelings. Reflect back what he says to you.
Do lots of listening so he gets to get it all out.
The other thing that can happen is : silence begets silence.
Whether this is good or bad is up to the dynamic you two have.



Three: the grey rock method: dont respond, dont engage, dont react, say nothing.....thing is this can sometimes make 'em angrier
Sometimes it can also make them finally exhaust their argument, (which is good) ≈ so you have to 'feel' your way with this one.


Four: Be the Boss - Lay down the law, short and plain. No long talks or detailed explaining it. No anger, no pleading....just calm ..."this is what i need, this is how its gonna go"
No debate

Five: professional help if nothing else works🫤


He prolly doesn't even know what hes doing..... or what its doing to you.
Some people like heated debates.
He could be walking away feeling fine ....while you're all jangled up and upset : and he has no idea.

He doesn't realize hes transferred all his 'angst' on to you.





This is all i got.


'cept : this needs to be nipped in the bud. It can grow.... become a habit, a cyclic event....it can even get "worse".

You do have a right to peace, Closeness and enjoyment in your relationship.


Does politics?