My narcissistic ex tried to manipulate me through my parents.
My parents,God bless their souls are empathetic kind hearted pastors who believe in forgiveness and redemption. They're both in their 60s and that has made them softies. The ex had his mother contact my father and meet with him to ask for his permission to talk to me,like I don't have my own agency or that my dad has the right to dictate who I do and don't talk to,IN 2025! He also gave her a birthday gift to give me. She told my father that he's been in therapy and his therapist thought it would be good for him to talk to me and get closure. My parents were fooled. They took the gift and promised to try and convince me to talk to him. Last night, when I saw the gift I thought it was from my parents and I was happy for it but as my mother kept talking my body picked up on what was coming,I saw it and knew,it was from him. My mother started complimenting him for being remorseful and going to therapy and I lost it.I had an emotional breakdown. I screamed at my parents telling them they betrayed me and asking why they would let a snake into my life. I forgave my parents this morning and helped them see that he was just manipulating them.
Here's the thing SW family,I knew something like this was going to happen. I had mentally prepared myself for him to try and contact me on my birthday. Narcissistic exes will always use birthdays,anniversaries and holidays as an opportunity/excuse to reach out to people who have cut them off. When my birthday passed without him trying to contact me I was pleasantly relieved but yesterday I realised I was right.
You know what's funny? During our 2 year relationship he never once got me a birthday gift and one of the last conversations we had was about him not wanting to go to therapy. All he proved was that he could've done those things if he wanted to. Now that he's decided he wants me he's doing them,too late bud. He only wants me because now he can't have me. I'm not a person to him,I'm a possession he deserves to win back because little baby🍼🤱👶 went to thewapy😒😂.
I'd like to make it known that not only did this idiot cheat on me for 8 months,HE BROKE UP WITH ME! His plan was to dump both of us and choose the one that fights for him. The last time I saw him was the day he half confessed to cheating,he claimed it was a month but I later found out from mutal friends that it was for 8 months. I immediately told him to fuck off and then I blocked him and moved on. It's been over 6 months since and I've moved on with my life. I'm in a new happy and healthy relationship with a man who appreciates me while he has me. The birthday gift he gave me was so thoughtful and intimate. It was perfect and we've only known each other for 10 months. We've been dating for a month now. My ex bought me a generic gift basket of toiletries and chocolates, all of which will be enjoyed by our maid. I was going to burn them but why let them go to waste when they can bless someone else you know?
This is not a man who wants closure,this is a man who lost his favourite plaything. This is a man who refuses to take no for an answer because he can't handle the fact that he lost control over me. He thought he knew me but he didn't. He stole 8 months of my life. For 8 months he had undeserved access to me. For 8 months he lived in a playboy fantasy where 2 women were fighting for him when in reality only one was. He emotionally abused me,gaslight me, and slept with me knowing I wouldn't let him touch me if I knew. He thought I was going to fight for him and instead I fought for,and will continue to fight for myself!
He has his dream job with his dream salary. He also has or had the woman he cheated on me with who he claimed to love,he said that to his friend not me. He had told him he was in love with both of us so why on earth is he still trying to talk to me? I think it's time I get the protection order now. He keeps trying to contact me and he keeps refusing to accept my decision.
I told him more than once that cheating was unforgivable, as usual he didn't listen. In his mind if he can just talk to me he can lie his way back into my life. It's too late. The version of me he is trying to appeal to died the day he last saw me. I've been reborn and I sick of this motherfucking poltergeist trying to make its way into my world!
Here's the thing SW family,I knew something like this was going to happen. I had mentally prepared myself for him to try and contact me on my birthday. Narcissistic exes will always use birthdays,anniversaries and holidays as an opportunity/excuse to reach out to people who have cut them off. When my birthday passed without him trying to contact me I was pleasantly relieved but yesterday I realised I was right.
You know what's funny? During our 2 year relationship he never once got me a birthday gift and one of the last conversations we had was about him not wanting to go to therapy. All he proved was that he could've done those things if he wanted to. Now that he's decided he wants me he's doing them,too late bud. He only wants me because now he can't have me. I'm not a person to him,I'm a possession he deserves to win back because little baby🍼🤱👶 went to thewapy😒😂.
I'd like to make it known that not only did this idiot cheat on me for 8 months,HE BROKE UP WITH ME! His plan was to dump both of us and choose the one that fights for him. The last time I saw him was the day he half confessed to cheating,he claimed it was a month but I later found out from mutal friends that it was for 8 months. I immediately told him to fuck off and then I blocked him and moved on. It's been over 6 months since and I've moved on with my life. I'm in a new happy and healthy relationship with a man who appreciates me while he has me. The birthday gift he gave me was so thoughtful and intimate. It was perfect and we've only known each other for 10 months. We've been dating for a month now. My ex bought me a generic gift basket of toiletries and chocolates, all of which will be enjoyed by our maid. I was going to burn them but why let them go to waste when they can bless someone else you know?
This is not a man who wants closure,this is a man who lost his favourite plaything. This is a man who refuses to take no for an answer because he can't handle the fact that he lost control over me. He thought he knew me but he didn't. He stole 8 months of my life. For 8 months he had undeserved access to me. For 8 months he lived in a playboy fantasy where 2 women were fighting for him when in reality only one was. He emotionally abused me,gaslight me, and slept with me knowing I wouldn't let him touch me if I knew. He thought I was going to fight for him and instead I fought for,and will continue to fight for myself!
He has his dream job with his dream salary. He also has or had the woman he cheated on me with who he claimed to love,he said that to his friend not me. He had told him he was in love with both of us so why on earth is he still trying to talk to me? I think it's time I get the protection order now. He keeps trying to contact me and he keeps refusing to accept my decision.
I told him more than once that cheating was unforgivable, as usual he didn't listen. In his mind if he can just talk to me he can lie his way back into my life. It's too late. The version of me he is trying to appeal to died the day he last saw me. I've been reborn and I sick of this motherfucking poltergeist trying to make its way into my world!
