VeganYogi · 31-35
Lol. You've been living with him this whole time and don't plan to leave? He can't be THAT bad then.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
No, he is that bad and no I haven’t been living with him the whole time. I returned after a long stay away.
Houses aren’t exactly cheap and neither is rent.
The only reason I stay is because I don’t have anywhere else to go…..not really. There is one other place I was offered to stay at but I don’t want to burden them so I’m choosing to stay here with my narcissistic father.
My rant doesn’t at all mean that i suddenly start thinking illogically and pack up my stuff without planning my escape. In fact the one night I did attempt to leave like that, he got up in my face like he was gonna beat me up.
Why?
Narcissists enjoy having their supply and I’m his supply. I’m his punching bag. I’m the person he takes out his frustrations and shortcomings on. God forbid his punching bag leaves. I’m taking advantage of this. How? Well I got a roof over my head. But it comes at the cost of my mental health.
My shortcomings don’t give my father the right to be a terrible human being. He’s been like this since I was a kid.
You wouldn’t understand
Plus, if you read at the end, I did mention that I just got a great paying job. $21 an hour with tons of overtime. So yes, I do plan on leaving.
If he wasn’t that terrible then how come no one and I mean no one ever visits him? No woman stays in his life, his grown sons (my brothers) don’t visit him, none off my aunts or uncles visit him or invite him to family gatherings.
Houses aren’t exactly cheap and neither is rent.
The only reason I stay is because I don’t have anywhere else to go…..not really. There is one other place I was offered to stay at but I don’t want to burden them so I’m choosing to stay here with my narcissistic father.
My rant doesn’t at all mean that i suddenly start thinking illogically and pack up my stuff without planning my escape. In fact the one night I did attempt to leave like that, he got up in my face like he was gonna beat me up.
Why?
Narcissists enjoy having their supply and I’m his supply. I’m his punching bag. I’m the person he takes out his frustrations and shortcomings on. God forbid his punching bag leaves. I’m taking advantage of this. How? Well I got a roof over my head. But it comes at the cost of my mental health.
My shortcomings don’t give my father the right to be a terrible human being. He’s been like this since I was a kid.
You wouldn’t understand
Plus, if you read at the end, I did mention that I just got a great paying job. $21 an hour with tons of overtime. So yes, I do plan on leaving.
If he wasn’t that terrible then how come no one and I mean no one ever visits him? No woman stays in his life, his grown sons (my brothers) don’t visit him, none off my aunts or uncles visit him or invite him to family gatherings.
YoMomma ·
Sounds like he has agressive anger issues and is vindictive and high strung.. he needs to chill but old habits die hard.. maybe he just needs a hug to calm down? 😳
how tall is he
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HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@deadinternet regardless, I just wish he wasn’t such an angry insecure person.
I don’t even care about his height the way he does.
I don’t even care about his height the way he does.
@HermannFegelein why dont you organize an intervention
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@deadinternet How do those work? I won’t lie, I have thought about doing something like that but I kinda worry about how he will react.
And also, some of my other siblings have always treated it like it wasn’t that big of a deal, yet they never visit him or stay in contact now that they’ve left the nest. If my father really was okay, they’d at least visit every once in a while but they don’t.
I was the only one to ever confront my father when we were kids. I’d call him out in situations where he stepped outta line. My brothers were always too scared to confront him.
Sometimes I imagine a Dr. Phil scenario in my head and it looks ugly. My father wouldn’t show up to such a meeting. He’s too prideful to admit he has a problem.
And also, some of my other siblings have always treated it like it wasn’t that big of a deal, yet they never visit him or stay in contact now that they’ve left the nest. If my father really was okay, they’d at least visit every once in a while but they don’t.
I was the only one to ever confront my father when we were kids. I’d call him out in situations where he stepped outta line. My brothers were always too scared to confront him.
Sometimes I imagine a Dr. Phil scenario in my head and it looks ugly. My father wouldn’t show up to such a meeting. He’s too prideful to admit he has a problem.