My smoking family

There’s this thing that drives me insane. Basically, all my older siblings and parents smoke. So in total, 4 people living with me smoke and 2 others who don’t live in the same house smoke as well. We’re a big family and we’re struggling with money but it just angers me so much because I need to keep feeling guilty and shit about myself about the fact that we’re broke. And they keep spending and spending, and smoking allll the time. How am I supposed to live this way? I know it’s an addiction and that it’s not as bad as drinking or doing drugs but still, how are we supposed to ever STOP being poor or be able to live a normal life if this keeps going on? I can’t do this anymore, and they keep loaning money from me to feed their addiction. What’s even worse is that my dad is getting sick from it. He has shortness of breath, coughing a lot (to the point that he’s just choking) and he continues to smoke. And the others continue to buy.

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Penny · 46-50, F

if you are actually the age your profile says you are id suggest to move out as soon as you can. if not theres not much you can do besides nag them to try and quit. as a smoker myself id suggest suggesting to them to try vaping. its muuuuch cheaper and your dads lungs will benefit from no tar and smoke. (no more coughing)

Jonasfish · 18-21

@Penny well since I’m continuing my studies and money is tight, I can’t afford to move it but yeah, it would probably be the smart option. It’s not that much about the smoke bothering me, it’s just that I hate how much they’re smoking since I know it’s going to be harder for them to quit, if not impossible. It’s causing me so much stress, I can’t sleep at night. I know it might seem strange, I just wouldn’t care so much if it wasn’t my own family, yk? My dad tried vaping but he claimed he was allergic to it🥲 idk but I’m going to keep pushing him to at least lower the amount her takes a day. The issue about smoking is that you do it when you’re stressed and since they’re really stressed with work and money, it makes them want to smoke even more💀 there’s just no winning

Penny · 46-50, F

@Jonasfish its a terrible addiction. and its soo expensive now. try not to stress aboutit. theres nothing you can do but nag them though that probably wont help much and could be bad for your relationship. it could help them quit though. lots of people quit smoking. as far as money goes i know its hard ot watch them waste it on cigarettes but believe me theyd probably rather die than quit so good luck with it. do try and urge them to stop or at least cut down a lot and offer support if they try though. (also, did your dad try and quit with the nic salts type of nicotine?) its much better than regular nicotine juice. get him to try the disposables and if he likes them then buy a reusable vape. its like maybe 60 or 80 bucks a month that way as opposed to like 300 dollars if hes a pack a day smoker. im here to help with vaping advice if hes open to it

Jonasfish · 18-21

@Penny exactly, it’s really really hard to stop, that’s why it’s been difficult for both of us but my dad realises that he seriously needs to stop so he’s open to trying substitutes. Thank you so much for being so understanding and helpful, it has really helped, I’ll make him try those other options!

Penny · 46-50, F

@Jonasfish lava plus is a popular good brand of disposable nic salt vapes. there are lots of good ones. just make sure it says nic salts

Penny · 46-50, F

@Jonasfish also, they might make him cough a little bit just at first until his lungs get used to the vapor. it wont take long before no coughing so make sure to tell him that if he tries it