overthinking
overthinking
I have been dating my boyfriend for like 2 weeks, its a new relationship and i have been overthinking a lot. Hes been like perfect, calling me pretty, saying he loves me, and never making me cry like i do in previous relationships. Why am i overthinking if hes so perfect you ask? im overthinking because im not sure if he actually loves me.
He says he loves me only when i offer him money when hes having money troubles. When i dont give him money his energy kinda changes, but thats probably just me. Also, when we talk its kinda dry and im like really trying to pull conversation out, and so does he but im used to toxic relationships where we can make fun of each other and laugh about it. I called him stupid as a joke and he said "ok".
I dont wanna end the relationship bc i actually do love him a lot, and maybe bc its a new relationship and im not used to it? But idk if i can keep this relationship going, hes like so dry sometimes and there are times where i just dont wanna talk to him at all bc of how dry he is. Im not good with carrying conversations so its awkward for me.
Im like overthinking if hes bored of this relationship bc of the dryness of the conversations. Im not sure what to even do here, maybe we just arent meant to be together and we're forcing it? i know that i do love him but im not sure if he even loves me even tho he does say it. I forgot to mention that he trauma dumps too and i feel bad bc im not even sure how to help.
His brother told me he had a stroke (i wrote about this in my other posts) and my boyfriend told me his mom has cancer and has 3 months to live, thats why hes been so stressed bc he wants to get a plane ticket to see her in Arizona. (From North Carolina to Arizona is like $400-$500) and hes broke too. Of course i feel bad but i feel like hes putting it on me and im not sure what to do, i dont have that kind of money.
He doesnt even have a job and im sure he isnt even looking for one, im also sure that if i ask him if he's looking for a job he'll get mad knowing how sensitive he can be. I also promised to spoil him bc i wasnt comfortable saying no when he tells me his struggles, so the least i can do is at least help a bit.
Me and my mom have a linked bank account and she saw i was sending money (she doesnt know of him) and stopped talking to me for 3 days but now im even more lost bc i want to be a supportive girlfriend but i also want my mom to talk to me.
I have been dating my boyfriend for like 2 weeks, its a new relationship and i have been overthinking a lot. Hes been like perfect, calling me pretty, saying he loves me, and never making me cry like i do in previous relationships. Why am i overthinking if hes so perfect you ask? im overthinking because im not sure if he actually loves me.
He says he loves me only when i offer him money when hes having money troubles. When i dont give him money his energy kinda changes, but thats probably just me. Also, when we talk its kinda dry and im like really trying to pull conversation out, and so does he but im used to toxic relationships where we can make fun of each other and laugh about it. I called him stupid as a joke and he said "ok".
I dont wanna end the relationship bc i actually do love him a lot, and maybe bc its a new relationship and im not used to it? But idk if i can keep this relationship going, hes like so dry sometimes and there are times where i just dont wanna talk to him at all bc of how dry he is. Im not good with carrying conversations so its awkward for me.
Im like overthinking if hes bored of this relationship bc of the dryness of the conversations. Im not sure what to even do here, maybe we just arent meant to be together and we're forcing it? i know that i do love him but im not sure if he even loves me even tho he does say it. I forgot to mention that he trauma dumps too and i feel bad bc im not even sure how to help.
His brother told me he had a stroke (i wrote about this in my other posts) and my boyfriend told me his mom has cancer and has 3 months to live, thats why hes been so stressed bc he wants to get a plane ticket to see her in Arizona. (From North Carolina to Arizona is like $400-$500) and hes broke too. Of course i feel bad but i feel like hes putting it on me and im not sure what to do, i dont have that kind of money.
He doesnt even have a job and im sure he isnt even looking for one, im also sure that if i ask him if he's looking for a job he'll get mad knowing how sensitive he can be. I also promised to spoil him bc i wasnt comfortable saying no when he tells me his struggles, so the least i can do is at least help a bit.
Me and my mom have a linked bank account and she saw i was sending money (she doesnt know of him) and stopped talking to me for 3 days but now im even more lost bc i want to be a supportive girlfriend but i also want my mom to talk to me.
