I feel like i might have betrayed my boyfriend I know what I did was really bad but I need to...

That sounds pretty toxic tbh. Your partner should not control who you can and can not be friends with.

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I know someone who has this rule in their relationship as well and they are now married. Been together 10 years. Both are super jealous and so it made sense to have that rule.

I don't think anyone without this rule find it wrong or a big deal. You laid it out as if you had fucked your neighbor behind your partners back but instead it was a few hugs and hanging out in a group where there was men and women.
I personally couldn't care less about some platonic meetings but if your boyfriend is really really jealous (insecure) it might feel like cheating and a betrayal.

But he deserves to know. You can't walk around hiding this from him it's not good for the relationship.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

It's not like you cheated on him. I get having boundaries with other gender friends but not having friends of another gender seems a bit much and bound to fail.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

It’s a childish rule. You should both grow up.

NonexistentKitten · 13-15

I thought you were gonna say you cheated or something-
If you’re just hugging and talking to this guy there isn’t an issue.
That’s normal.
No partner should control who their partner hugs, or talks to.
Unless you were catching feelings, flirting, etc. I don’t see a issue.

Jake966 · 56-60, M

Don’t worry about it

SW-User

That’s tough. Personally, I don’t see the problem because nothing happened, but you did have a rule in place. I would be honest with him. He might get upset, or he might not. If he loves you, he will forgive.

oogirl · 16-17, F

Just talking and hugs?

NativePortlander1970 ·

That's a very selfish rule to have, who's the one that imposed it?