Venting...I don't talk about this stuff much.

Words may only be words but sometimes they can hurt.

If you tell a child continuously that they won't amount to anything, are fat, lazy and will die young. They will start to believe it.

Now, when I look in the mirror... I can see an attractive woman looking back at me.
I'm intelligent and would do anything for anyone.

However yet, I still struggle to believe I am beautiful.

It's difficult to love yourself when those who were meant to love you the most, failed at the most important part of parenting.

Just venting. Will probably delete.

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LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

I'm glad you were able to get this off your chest, so to speak. Letting go of the words banging in our head - and the emotions sometimes that are attached to them - can be empowering.

I'm so sorry you had to experience this; it sucks. My wife (especially) and I had similar experiences, possibly to a lesser degree though. We had to make a very conscious effort to avoid it with our kids - including not putting ourselves down in front of them too often.

I hope in time you can come to recognize your beauty. It's there, waiting for you to discover it. Just remember, somebody isn't "beautiful" just because of how they look. Maybe that reminder helps you on your discovery.

If it's OK, consider yourself warmly hugged. 🤗🤗🤗