What should I do.

At the beginning of my school year, I befriended this girl since I thought she was incredible and thought that nothing would go wrong, but that didn't seem to be the case 4 months ago. I started having dreams about her that I wished were reality, dreams that could never come true. I didn't know what to do since I was having dreams about my friend I didn't know what to do, nor feel. I couldn't face her after receiving those dreams, I was devoured by embarrassment and guilt for having dreams of her and me together, I knew at that time that I no longer saw her just as a friend, more like someone that is playing my feelings in my dreams, I didn't want the dreams to take over our friendship but just a couple days ago I got a dream where we were living happily, but then she just vanished in the air then I woke up. I don't know what it meant nor do I want to know, but somehow I felt that I knew the meaning, I felt that I knew what that dream meant, but I didn't want to feel that way, I just want to be friends, I don't want to love her romantically I really don't, I don't know what's going on, one part of me wants to be with her, and the other doesn't want love, please.

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SW-User

Falling in love with a friend is tres difficile. (hard). You are young, and likely the first time, you are experiencing this. I'd always keep someone as a friend first, but, I have to say this, all my romantic partners have become my best friends in their time. I'd be frightened of losing that friendship, what I think your dream represents, might tear me apart. So I can't offer you advice, but understand your feelings somewhere, I did once have a beautiful friend, we'd caress each other, and have all voice in love and laughter together, but it came with an understanding, this can never be more.

What does your heart tell you?

moons · 22-25, F

@SW-User I just really want to be friends nothing else, close friends? sure, but I'll never get into a relationship with one of my friends again due to my past.

SW-User

@moons It happens more often now, I think, but you can be friends with benefits. Are you willing to make the move? Do you know her orientation? And, personally, if you feel it threatens your friendship, I say keep it to friendship, but you never know, what you want might lead to a closer friendship (and I mean as friends)

moons · 22-25, F

@SW-User I'll make a move once i transfer schools, (and mind the school ill transfer to is in a different state) :)

RYANPRATAMA · 31-35, M

Dreams are dreams. Sometimes they're right, sometimes they're not.

I feel like, it's just something that your mind created. Deep down you want this stuff to happen or fear that you will lose something.

Sometimes i never paid to much attention to my dreams. I took it as a joke. Last night, i dreamt that i might die on friday next week. But we don't know.

Oster1 · M

Accept and believe in the concept of Unconditional Love, with no expectations. Sometimes, far superior to romantic love! 😊

Nomad7 · 26-30, M

Tell her how you feel. Or cut off from her. Don’t torture yourself by hanging in the middle

moons · 22-25, F

@Nomad7 I'll tell her soon, since she knows I'll transfer in a different school in a different state. Once I tell her I'll maybe cut all ties with her since well, I don't want to have a relationship.

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