hi there sometimes we try physically but our mind is somewhere else and so it never seems to work, try being kind to yourself and letter go of any negative energy you may have by doing so you can get your mind and body on the same page and you will see how thing change let life take it course and go with it don't try to force it, it will never come. patience is key not only that take everything that comes and understand it doesn't let it go without dealing with it this is what distracts your mind if you need to offload I am here.