How do i deal with my problems when all my parents want is for me to solve them

My parents love long lectures. They always expect me to be new and improved wand to constantlu seek at the cause of things. They expect me to know what reason i have for my emotions, and anxieties. Most of the time i simply dont know and it just happens. I dont know how to handle my anxiety and its hard to balance the stress of everything. I just dont understand my issues most of theyimei dont know whats wrong with me and if i should make a big deal out of it. I want my parents to know how i feel but im afraid that theyll just push it off as unimportant and tell me to solveit myself. Recently i even started dating a transgender. My parents are so future focused that they hate her for they fear she might cause problems for me in the futuer. Im tired of being future focused. I just want to live a little and qork things out slowly. I think rushing things really damages my mental state and idk im so tired of things ugh