So i dreamed about cheating on my boyfriend...

Sounds bad already right? Well it gets worse. I dreamed that I cheated on him with my best friend's boyfriend.
I remember feeling guilty but craving the validation...
I mean the other guy is pretty good looking but whatever
Lately I've been struggling with my self worth, and that usually manifests into dreams that make me feel like an awful person. I did some research and it said that I most likely am missing something from my relationship.

My boyfriend moved out a week ago, because of money issues (and other stuff, but we're still together) and he's now living with this very beautiful girl who is honestly the sweetest and most understanding person I've met. We also have a lot of personality traits that are similar, so much so that it's almost creepy... so I'm worried about being replaced. It's more of a subconscious worry, because I have absolute faith and trust in my man, and I know he would never do anything like that. My anxiety disorder just blows things out of proportion. Plus I'm worried that he and I suddenly don't have much to talk about, and the time i enjoy with him most is when we're fucking or cuddling in silence. I like to talk, but now i have no idea what to say.
Keep in mind, these are all issues that have been processing in my brain over and over in the past 24hrs.

The part that confuses me the most is who i was cheating on him with in the dream. I felt more guilty about my friend's boyfriend cheating with me than I did about me cheating. Also the dream kinda turned me on...
A lot of moral dilemmas here, it would be cool to get advice but i just wanted to get this out there. It's currently 00:22 where I am, and I have shit to do at 6am so bye i guess
Have a good life yall :)

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

First of all, dreaming about it does not mean you seriously want to do it.

But as to "why him", I think it is pretty common for people to look favorably at their friends' partners. After all, you see him through her eyes to a great extent.

RemytheRat · 18-21, F

@DrWatson it's mostly confusing because he honestly treats her like shit... he's been dealt a rough hand in life, and he doesn't know how to truly control his emotions, and i think it's beautiful that they don't care about each others issues, but they care about their love. Which is cool, but all I see in him is a fairly attractive dude.
My boyfriend and I are well known around our little town for having the healthiest and happiest relationship, which i guess is why im freaking

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@RemytheRat I have come to the conclusion, after years of thinking about dreams, that there is an awful lot of randomness and free association behind what goes into a dream. (Sorry, Dr. Freud!)

So, for example, one possible scenario might simply be: you spend time wondering what she sees in him. That means he is on your mind. You dream about a relationship, and this other thought (about this guy) in the brain cell next door just pops in and invades the dream.

When you wake up, you find it disturbing, and so it takes on a sense of significance then.

It might mean nothing at all.

ABAB00 · 31-35, M

You can’t control your dreams, but we have to ask why we thought that. I have those dreams too, so no judgement.

Deep down, are you happy in your relationship? Is something missing (maybe you’re looking for that missing piece)

Those are things you have to ask yourself. However, just know it’s natural to think about others being attractive. We are human after all!

ArtieKat · M

I'm sorry to be blunt but think that @ABAB00 has got it spot-on

Deep down, are you happy in your relationship? Is something missing

. Perhaps it's nothing to do with a personality disorder at all but that you're simply not compatible as friends outside bed.

BiasForAction · M

Don’t overthink it

Just enjoy the bf and you don’t have to talk either when you’re together

Elessar · 26-30, M

My boyfriend moved out a week ago, because of money issues (and other stuff, but we're still together) and he's now living with this very beautiful girl who is honestly the sweetest and most understanding person I've met.

Was this in the dream too? Because otherwise 🚩🚩🚩

RemytheRat · 18-21, F

@Elessar lol it wasn't in the dream, that part is real. It was a very last minute thing, he would probably have either been homeless or lost his job if she didn't offer. Im really grateful to her honestly. As far as I know, it's just an act of kindness, and i really hope that is all it is.

Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

Yikes, that roommate situation is not good.

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