Yeah what do i do pls help me i swear to my own soul

It's just like you know I'm a lesbo and I told him Luke 2 days ago that we can't date ever bc I'm not romantically into him and he told me that he didn't want to speak to me again and I told him I loved him like I tell everyone that and I do but in a friend way but today I was talking to him and I I said and what am I to you and he said my babe and so I said no and now he is getting all sad and emotinal and mad bc I don't want to be his babe and I'm really struggling with trying to explain again how I'm not bc he will probably try to kill himself

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SW-User

Feels for you, and forget those who ask for punctuation when they already know the expression.

crownedwithlaurel97 · F

can we get some punctuation

msfuxksupeverything · 22-25, F

@crownedwithlaurel97 nk

ExperienceDLT · M

He is just using you and him claiming he would kill himself if you wont date him is just a control tatic ditch him and move on

HootyTheNightOwl

That's not your problem. You're not responsible for how anyone else takes the news that you are gay. Their actions are on them.

HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M

He'll get over it.

SW-User

He's taken things the wrong way, it happens a lot with guys and particularly with inexperienced guys. You've told him that you don't see him that way and now that's for him to deal with. Don't let him emotionally blackmail you with threats of suicide or self harm. If he expresses that he feels that way then encourage him to talk to someone. That's as far as you should go. You are not responsible for his life choices.

msfuxksupeverything · 22-25, F

@SW-User But he is a friend of mine that i have had for a long time, i would have guilt if i was the one that lead him to his death, i couldnt live with that.

SW-User

@msfuxksupeverything And that is what makes you vulnerable to manipulation should he choose to want to manipulate you. He may not even realise that he's doing it, but to use threats of self harm to get what you want is deeply disturbing and is not the actions of a friend. If you allow such threats to affect your decisions then you're enabling him rather than helping him.

msfuxksupeverything · 22-25, F

@SW-User he didnt threaten me with him sh he is emotional and suicidal and ive already stopped him once which was damaging for me and im dealibg with this now and its hard, hes also autistic so maybe he just didnt understand what i was saying. but im afraid of losing him.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

Did you ever make him think that there could be something between the two of you?

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