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Abused, and can't say anything

I live in a sexist family. I have a brother. He is abusive.

He abuses me physically & mentally. I've been studying about psychology so I can tell he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD. I've tried all of the ways to control him but of them worked. He just gets worse and worse.

Fyi, he is younger than me. I would be the best in the generation of my family if sexism didn't exist. Everyone used to put on me a lot of pressure when I was just a kid, so that is when he started to get jealous and abusive. He uses me as a toy to express his anger every time he gets mad. He beats me up, uses hurtful words and names to call me, even ruin my social media accounts & books.

What do I do about it? I keep quiet. It isn't allowed in my family to fight back, but I guess I am the only one who follows this rule. Mostly because I don't want to disappoint my parents, and if I do, I'll be punished. No one really cares about how I feel unless I speak up, but the only "careness" they do give is criticism and hatred. In short, they hate being exposed and they would do anything to shame me and make fake proof that I "lied" about them.

My brother gets mad all the time with dumb stuff, like going into my room or going downstairs could piss him off anytime. Whenever he gets uncomfortable with something, I am the victim. He uses hurtful and harsh words towards me and sometimes with violence, he tries everything to blame me.

It is getting really bad right now, I'm getting mental and physical disorders because of him. But I do not have a device to report to the police or anything, because my parents don't allow me to touch techs. In addition, I'll have no home to live in because none of my relatives want a girl in their family. I'm still a minor, so I can't get a job.
Scribbles · 36-40, F
My family was like this. The brother in my case was the eldest.

I say do what you need to do to be safe for yourself. You need to make yourself a priority. It is not ok for your family to do this or allow this. I hesitate to give anymore advice because family like that can be very volatile and I had legit fears for my safety when I was a kid. But I do urge you to take action whenever you do have an opportunity to get away or get help. Try to find out more about rights as a minor when dealing with abuse at home.

I waited until I was 18 to make my move. Because then I knew for sure, I would never HAVE to be home or around them ever again. But I also hate that I waited so long out of fear and because I was unwilling to speak about the worst abuses and figured the mild stuff would just get shrugged off. But I should have. I just didn't know there were more resources out there for minors at the time.

Stay safe, and good luck. I am worried for you.
DocSavage · M
Do not just sit there and take it. If someone brings up “family rules” make sure they understand the rules apply to everyone. The worse thing you can do it keep quite about it. That is what abusers are counting on. The believe they are superior, and are entitled to take and do what they want , when ever they want. Make it loud, hold them accountable, narcissists hate blame and responsibility. After all they’re “perfect”
When you can, get out. Your family lets this happen, then they are as bad as your brother. You deserve better . Always remember that. It they get worse, get help. Let them know, that there is someone out there who knows what they are.
eMortal · M
What’s the religious background of your family? Is there a foster care system in your country? What does your mom think about it all?
@eMortal As you can see my family is sexist.
No, there isn't a foster care system in my country
And my mother doesn't mind it at all. She sometimes tells me she'll teach him but as far as I can see she hasn't done anything but promising and lying.
AbbyNormal · 51-55, F
@eMortal I grew up in the Methodist church, but now I don't really believe in a god. It's been the cause of many wars and bloodshed. There's a Foster Care system in my state of Florida and I am not sure what the conditions are going with it. I've heard about many horror stories about foster children and I think there needs to be an overhaul of the whole thing.
AbbyNormal · 51-55, F
Get out of the house and stay away from him. I'm speaking from experience and it will only get worse.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
You have to plan to move out and become independent as soon as possible.

 
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