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I am adopted.

My birth mother gave me up when she gave birth to me. Well she asked for money from the family who wanted to adopt me.idk was I sold?. Luckily I was given to a very kind family and really lovable one. My mom and dad who adopted me put me through college and i now have a bachelors degree and a job. One day, my birth mom found me. She made me feel loved and regret what she did but she asks for money. I dont earn that much until one day when i wasnt able to give her money. She suddenly became berzerk crazy like telling me hurtful words. For 26 years she never contacted me. Only talked to me when i finished college and have a job. I find it weird cause my parents who adopted me never asked me for money cause they know im still a beginner at my company and i dont earn much. I havent told them what my birth mom said to me. Do i have a responsibility of my birth mom? I kinda feel guilt cause i wasnt able to send her money. My SO told me in the first place she gave me up and i dont really need to send her anything. She gives me words like

"Oh im still ypur mother and you are my child"
"We are family even if i gave you away"
" i hope you can help me as your mother have a better life"

I have a hard time sleeping and keep having bad dreams cause of what my birth mom said. I feel im an awful daughter. Like it is not my fault she is in her situation. If she didnt do drugs and not have a lot of men in her life she woulve been in a better situation but she makes me feel responsible for sht i dont do.
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You have no cause for guilt. Yes, we should respect our parents and help if possible, but not if they only show up with their hand out.

She got along without you for 26 years. She can get along without you now.

Instead, spend the money on a card for your REAL parents, telling them how grateful you are they wanted you as a daughter, not as an ATM.