Don’t know if I’m overreacting
One of my friends randomly blocked me and one of our mutual friends sent the things he had written about me and his explanation. He said I was a horrible friend and that I was a liar; his reasoning being that I didn’t start 1 on 1 conversations and that I had gone out of my way to insult him when I vented about someone who had groomed me. To be fair, I definitely have to work on communication and starting conversations, he’s right about that and I admitted to it; but he does not start conversations either and I thought that talking in a GC was enough. I’ve explained before that I’m bad at starting convos because I’m dealing with a lot of stuff right now and that I never go out of my way to purposely not talk to anyone.
The thing he was most mad about though, was what I had said when I was venting about my groomer around a month back. I won’t go into a lot of detail but I said that the groomer was obsessive and freaked me out, and that they did a bunch of creepy things + on top of that all the pressuring into stuff and then getting angry at me when I declined.
His reason for being angry at me was that him and my groomer had similar traits, and therefore I was indirectly insulting my him. My friend never told me this when I was venting about it, in fact we were both venting about the same person because they were really rude to him. I obviously don’t think my friend and my groomer are similar.. but he is dying on the hill that I was insulting him while talking about my experience. I’m honestly really upset by it and I feel like it’s so selfish of him to turn what I said about an abuser into something about him, when we both knew it literally was not about him at all? I tried to explain that the context mattered and that my groomers obsessive behavior was creepy because it was PREDATORY, but he still doesn’t accept this.
My friend also went off on me and said that I had a victim complex and that I needed to think harder about my actions, but I’m honestly just confused. He has these types of meltdowns a lot but this is the first time he has snapped on me. I tried to be rational and I just stopped trying to say anything because it’s pointless, he refuses to see from any other point of view and he’s blaming me for everything going wrong; although he has never tried to talk about how he felt before this. He just randomly snapped and began talking about things that I genuinely didn’t know he was feeling. I’m not really sad, I’m just frustrated and idk if I’m wrong for being so hurt over making the groomer situation about himself. I genuinely was not trying to insult him when I was talking about my groomer, I was even comforting him while we were talking about it. I’m just so mad and I feel completely alone in this
The thing he was most mad about though, was what I had said when I was venting about my groomer around a month back. I won’t go into a lot of detail but I said that the groomer was obsessive and freaked me out, and that they did a bunch of creepy things + on top of that all the pressuring into stuff and then getting angry at me when I declined.
His reason for being angry at me was that him and my groomer had similar traits, and therefore I was indirectly insulting my him. My friend never told me this when I was venting about it, in fact we were both venting about the same person because they were really rude to him. I obviously don’t think my friend and my groomer are similar.. but he is dying on the hill that I was insulting him while talking about my experience. I’m honestly really upset by it and I feel like it’s so selfish of him to turn what I said about an abuser into something about him, when we both knew it literally was not about him at all? I tried to explain that the context mattered and that my groomers obsessive behavior was creepy because it was PREDATORY, but he still doesn’t accept this.
My friend also went off on me and said that I had a victim complex and that I needed to think harder about my actions, but I’m honestly just confused. He has these types of meltdowns a lot but this is the first time he has snapped on me. I tried to be rational and I just stopped trying to say anything because it’s pointless, he refuses to see from any other point of view and he’s blaming me for everything going wrong; although he has never tried to talk about how he felt before this. He just randomly snapped and began talking about things that I genuinely didn’t know he was feeling. I’m not really sad, I’m just frustrated and idk if I’m wrong for being so hurt over making the groomer situation about himself. I genuinely was not trying to insult him when I was talking about my groomer, I was even comforting him while we were talking about it. I’m just so mad and I feel completely alone in this
