this thing keeps happening and im upset

i ask what time we're leaving and he says 6. so im like, cool, i can nap at 4, take a shower at 5, then play with dog till we leave at 6. then at 5 im woken up from my nap because it's time to leave, and i have 0 minutes to get ready, instead of the 60 i planned for. so i get ready in 20 minutes but we're still late and im anxious and overwhelmed and really upset and kind of dont even want to go anymore!! and im like hey, we've talked about this before, when you said we're leaving at 6 i thought that meant we were leaving at 6?? and he says "well you should have gotten ready earlier"

bro why do i have to get ready hours before you said we're leaving in case you didnt actually mean that time???

i asked how he told everyone we were late and he said he told them i wasnt done getting ready

👹 i was done getting ready forty minutes early actually!!!!! 👹

end rant

ACTUALLY editing to add that he asked for a hug because i was upset and i said no and then he hugged me anyway and i was like dude!! i said "i don't want a hug i want to know what time we're leaving" and he said "i know"

ive asked nicely to break this habit at least two or three times and tonight i got for real upset. and usually i never see change till i use my angry voice or cry which i did both tonight so 🤪 maybe it'll he the last time this happens

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@HannahSky so i asked at 2 what time we'd leave and he said at 6 but he'll ask. i didnt hear anything by 4 so i went down for a nap and he texted at 4:35 that we're leaving at 5

another instance where he wanted to leave two hours before the time he said was because he changed his mind and wanted to leave now. my hair was soaking wet cause i had just taken a shower and when i was upset he said it didnt matter. i said it mattered to me which he rolled his eyes at 🙄