I Am Upset

My friend of five years told me a week ago that she's tired of always driving to my area. She waits five years later to tell me she hates driving towards me. It's a 35 minute drive. I can't go her way because I still can't drive and I don't like to bother my parents to drive me to her house because I know they have lives. That's why I wait until she texts me asking to hang out because then I assume that means she's in the mood to drive towards my area. She kept questioning me telling me to finally get my license but I already told her everything that's stopping me from getting one but she doesn't care. And she doesn't like the fact that my mom is afraid of driving to places that are unfamiliar. Everyone has irrational fears. She kept saying it's annoying how my parents always assume that she can always drive my way but they have nothing to do with it. They don't offer because I don't ask them. I know my family's routine. My mom has her fears with driving and my dad works all week so on weekends he likes to sleep all day. I'm not going to interrupt him from his nap just to bring me far to my friend's. I'm sick of having friends that always expect me to go out of my way for them yet when I ask for the same in return, they act like they're selling their souls. I compromised with her and told her we'll find a halfway point. She texted me a few hours ago. I'm now afraid of her asking me to hang out because then I'll have to ask my dad to drive me to a halfway point and I hate bothering him.

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SW-User

If you are between 22-25, what reasons could you have for not learning to drive?

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

I hate the way my parents teach me to drive. I had a driving instructor who told me I was ready but I regret that he asked me to take me for my test and I told him no because I assumed my parents would want to be the ones to take me. Turned out they told me they would have been fine with that. I can't contact him again because I know he'll be disappointed that I still haven't taken the test. I made a deal with my mom. She told me to give my dad another chance and if I still don't like how he teaches me, then she'll teach me. Which is fine because I feel more comfortable with her anyways.

SW-User

@JewStar4Life: He wouldn't be disappointed with you. Just explain. Your instructor wants to see you succeed

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

@JewStar4Life:
You live inside your head and assume too much .
It's really crazy making, I know bc I practice this too (unfortunately).

Call him and just do it.
You have nothing to lose and much to gain.

LIVE your life.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@Laifu1: He's a New Yorker. They don't hide what they feel. I don't need a whole lecture from him about me still not taking the test. Plus, I already spent $300 on the lessons. I'm not going to keep paying for them.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@Lunadelobos: Yes I do. I have $300 to lose. That's why I'll just give my dad one more chance. If he blows it, then my mom will help me. I just know that nothing will change when I get my license. I'll never be independent.