Having a bad day so please please be nice

Please I beg you be nice because I'm having a terrible day and drove home crying. I'm hoping I would come on here for positive support considering I don't have many friends.

Long story short I had a presentation today in class and my teacher humiliated me in front of the class. Not bad enough you're already nervous. On top of that, I was having technical issues and the PowerPoint didn't look the same on the projection screen. At the end of my presentation, my teacher was asking me questions and kept grilling me making me more nervous. So literally while I'm still up there presenting she told the class that we need to be more prepared and need to do better at explaining. After I sat down feeling stupid feeling everyone's eyes on me.

Next couple of people went up and she didn't grill them or ask them anything? Then halfway again to the class " Those who were prepared thank you blah blah blah" I know she was talking about me. At the end of class asked to see me in front of the whole class and was like you know better... I told her I'm sorry I was already nervous and then having technical issues. I even answered her question that I couldn't in front of everyone and told her I know my stuff I was very nervous. Mind you people are in the room listening. I was HUMILIATED. She apologized to me and said I'm sorry if I embarrassed you...... Like really??, you know you did if you even have to say that. I cried the whole way home. I don't even want to show my face next week but I know I have to be strong and do so. I don't even want to look at her.

Please I need positive uplifting words and I'm coming to all of you for some so please be kind. And I will pay it forward when any of you need to chat or need encouraging words. Thank you for reading. P.S I go to a university

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BalthazarBlake · 56-60, M

This is university?
If such an event happened and I had been present, then I would have walked out of her class and reported her. Very unprofessional. You don't have to put up with her behaviour, please find your self worth, it's inside you. This isn't high school, you're at uni preparing for your future.

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@BalthazarBlake I disagree. One of the skills a person needs to develop is to how to cope with criticism. IMO, the student has the opportunity to assemble a team that will help him become proficient in presentations. It would have been more harmful if the teacher had ignored his poor performance.

BalthazarBlake · 56-60, M

@Diotrephes This wasn't constructive criticism from her teacher, it was a form of bullying in front of others. She could have spoken to her in private. Not everyone has a tough shell, this is failure on the teacher's part.

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@BalthazarBlake The student is supposedly over 40 years-old. I'm sure this isn't the first time he's been criticized. He's in an university where one of his objectives should be how to make presentations in front of a large group of strangers. How will he defend his thesis if he can't give a good presentation? He isn't auditioning for a tv job but he should be good enough to do a business presentaion. Would you hire him if he wasn't?

BalthazarBlake · 56-60, M

@Diotrephes Over 40? I thought it was a young female? Says 'F' by her username.
Well, in that case ...

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@BalthazarBlake You are most likely right. I saw the 44 by the name and thought it was the poster's age. I overlooked the "F".

Doglover44 · F

@Diotrephes I can take criticism but embarrassing one in front of the class is a another thing.

Doglover44 · F

@Diotrephes thank you for both of your inputs.

Doglover44 · F

@BalthazarBlake Thank you. I hate confrontation so I doubt I'll do anything.

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@Doglover44 IMO, you should use this as motivation to strengthen your ability to handle criticism. So, form a study group of friends, family members, classmates, etc., and practice giving presentations. Ask them to tell you what they like and to roast you over the coals for what they don't like. And also ask them to give you suggestions as to how you can improve.

If you do that on a continous basis (as long as you can get an audience) you will be surprised at how much you will have improved and how much confidence you will have gained in yourself.

Here's some homework:

https://www.success.com/do-these-12-things-before-your-next-speech-or-presentation/

https://www.success.com/the-power-of-self-awareness-with-kris-carr/

https://www.success.com/strategies-to-build-self-awareness-as-a-leader/

https://www.success.com/get-over-your-fear-of-public-speaking/

https://www.success.com/how-i-finally-overcame-my-fear-of-public-speaking/

https://www.success.com/afraid-of-public-speaking-7-tips-to-do-it-well/

https://www.success.com/5-habits-to-help-you-handle-rejection-gracefully/

https://www.success.com/a-manual-for-dealing-with-rejection/

https://harveymackayacademy.com/a-good-speech-is-like-a-pencil-it-has-a-point/

https://www.blackenterprise.com/this-design-tool-creates-beautiful-business-presentations-with-a-single-click/

https://www.blackenterprise.com/present-like-pro-3-tips-mastering-professional-presentations/

https://www.blackenterprise.com/first-quarter-presentations-how-to-be-a-hit/

There are countless articles that you can easily search that will give you lots of useful information.

BalthazarBlake · 56-60, M

@Doglover44 Of course, it isn't a good way in dealing with student, at least I don’t believe it is. But maybe a change of mindset for you and take the criticism to mind, but not to heart.