Feeling like the dumbell of the group
In a class there are groupings that we have to stick with till the end of the semester. And for some damn reason, the professor's method of choosing the groups is finding leaders "aka the loud popular kids" then have the leaders choose their members.
(Mind you that this is a college course so we barely know anyone let alone know their names.)
And so I got grouped in with this one group, that seem pretty close with each other already. I only found out later that they chose me just for shits and giggles because i had the same sounding last name with one of their friends in the group. And so that pissed me off but I'll let it slide because to be honest maybe it is funny and i'm too uptight to realize it.
But then when youre just a member in a group of already friends, youre pretty bound to be left out of conversations. They barely assign me to do any work. I can't casually join in to their conversation. And I just don't like their vibes with me being an introvert, and them being overtly extroverted and loud.
Yesterday, they finally asked me to do this big important work to the group project that they barely let me contribute to. It lifted my spirits up to see that atleast they trust me with this since they were all busy preparing for exams in their own schedules. So I busted my ass off all night till 12 am to make the presentation boards. One of the members then said "Ill just remove some elements so that the boards look presentable". Which is totally fine for me because that's constructive changes.
I woke up the next morning to find that they completely and i mean COMPLETELY changed the boards. Not only did I just waste my time that could have been used to study for the upcoming exams, but I wasted their time too because they spent the morning (1am till 5am) to completely make new presentation boards. They were online too to watch me work on the project in real time but they never even commented on what I'm doing wrong or if there's any changes that should be made. I would much rather prefer that they nag me to make changes than being undermined.
I am just too pissed at this development that I am almost tempted to just skip class. I would ask the professor to have me transferred to another group but then it would already be a hassle to the group im transferring too. And I already know that he's gonna make a whole monologue on how I have to "deal with it" and just learn to get along with my group mates because gosh diddly damn ArChitecTuRe is tEAmWorK.
So I guess I have to suck it up, move on, and just bear it till the semester ends.
(Mind you that this is a college course so we barely know anyone let alone know their names.)
And so I got grouped in with this one group, that seem pretty close with each other already. I only found out later that they chose me just for shits and giggles because i had the same sounding last name with one of their friends in the group. And so that pissed me off but I'll let it slide because to be honest maybe it is funny and i'm too uptight to realize it.
But then when youre just a member in a group of already friends, youre pretty bound to be left out of conversations. They barely assign me to do any work. I can't casually join in to their conversation. And I just don't like their vibes with me being an introvert, and them being overtly extroverted and loud.
Yesterday, they finally asked me to do this big important work to the group project that they barely let me contribute to. It lifted my spirits up to see that atleast they trust me with this since they were all busy preparing for exams in their own schedules. So I busted my ass off all night till 12 am to make the presentation boards. One of the members then said "Ill just remove some elements so that the boards look presentable". Which is totally fine for me because that's constructive changes.
I woke up the next morning to find that they completely and i mean COMPLETELY changed the boards. Not only did I just waste my time that could have been used to study for the upcoming exams, but I wasted their time too because they spent the morning (1am till 5am) to completely make new presentation boards. They were online too to watch me work on the project in real time but they never even commented on what I'm doing wrong or if there's any changes that should be made. I would much rather prefer that they nag me to make changes than being undermined.
I am just too pissed at this development that I am almost tempted to just skip class. I would ask the professor to have me transferred to another group but then it would already be a hassle to the group im transferring too. And I already know that he's gonna make a whole monologue on how I have to "deal with it" and just learn to get along with my group mates because gosh diddly damn ArChitecTuRe is tEAmWorK.
So I guess I have to suck it up, move on, and just bear it till the semester ends.
