is there anything wrong with being a 'recluse'

i am a reclusive figure,i like to stay indoors and seclude myself from people, i rarely go out and only when i have to, so i'm a recluse but then at times i get lonely....because i would like a special person in my life, a nice chick.....but then i'm in my late 40s and have mental health challenges.

so what do you think?

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

When I share fears like this with my therapist, that I'm very shy, I don't do many social things, and I'm terrified of being not enough for a man, she says, ' When it comes to fear, you just have to do it' ..but that doesn't help all that much really. I need to get to changing the perception I have of myself. I need her to also help challenge my negative inner voice.

I'd say just take little steps towards meeting someone. The right one won't mind if you are reclusive sometimes. I'm going to try to join some type of club to meet up with people maybe once a month just to challenge my own mind.